Linda
VIP June 2017

First Holidays As a Married Couple

Linda, on November 15, 2017 at 1:18 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 46
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Hi everyone, My sister in law reached out to me today to ask me if I was passing thanksgiving with my family or My DHs family. Thats when I realized that I have not even thought about how we are going to be dividing our time and it gave me a headache just thinking about it. In the Past we would always spend half a day at his family and then half a day at my parents. What are you all doing for the holidays are you dividing your time or are you appointing thanksgiving to DH family and Christmas for yours or vise versa? I swear i think my family would have a panic attack if I chose to just spend thanksgiving with DH parents lol

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Latest activity by Chrissy, on December 13, 2017 at 1:06 AM
  • Linda
    VIP June 2017
    Linda ·
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    Thats what I figured thanks ladies

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  • A
    Just Said Yes September 2019
    annette ·
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    I usually take one day with my family and one with my so's family

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  • firstoneat56
    Master August 2017
    firstoneat56 ·
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    I don't see why anything would need to change from what you've done previously. If you'd rather spend the day at one house, most couples I know switch off every year. Or if you celebrate another holiday later in the year (Christmas, Chanukah, etc.) spend Thanksgiving at one family's house and the other holiday at the other family's house.

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  • Katie
    Expert October 2018
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    Thanksgiving is usually spent with my family because FH is a manager in retail and always has to be at work 4 and it works out better location wise to his job. This year however we are just staying home and doing our thing. Christmas is spent with his family because it is an all day thing verses my family where it's just an hour or two. We've been doing this for 4 years now and haven't had much of an issue except the first year there were nasty comments made from one person in regards to all of it.

    We are within an hour drive of everyone so it doesn't bother us too much how we break up the holidays

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  • LillyBean17
    Master October 2017
    LillyBean17 ·
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    Our families have caused too many headaches since the wedding so we are faking sick and I'm making a traditional dinner for us. So over the drama!

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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
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    My husband doesn't celebrate thanksgiving so it's always with my family.

    We are doing Christmas with my family this year and NYE with our friends. We aren't able to visit my husband's country due to travel restrictions which sucks so bad for him. We probably won't see his family until next December.

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  • Justyn
    Beginner November 2017
    Justyn ·
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    My family typically celebrates holidays the day after the "real thing". My sisters and I go out to celebrate with friends/SOs' families on the day of, and then the next day, all our friends and SOs come to my parents'. Which only works because our families are within driving distance of one another.

    In saying that, we ARE actually doing Thanksgiving holiday differently in that we're taking my parents to visit my sister over the long weekend, and so will be missing Thanksgiving with DH's family. But that's not an effect of being married, per se.

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  • KDoubleU
    VIP October 2017
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    We do an early Thankgiving and Christmas with his family and the evenings with mine. Both are driving distance. Christmas Eve we go to SIL and then grab a drink just us.

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  • FutureMrsKC
    Master January 2019
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    If it's that big of a headache you could always cook at your house and invite both sides of the family. Whoever comes does, and whoever doesn't oh well. We are within driving distance to everyone and with FH parents divorced and remarried we go to 3 thanksgivings and 3 Christmas dinners. It's fine now but when we have kinds I plan on cooking Christmas dinner at our house and inviting everyone to make it easier on us.

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  • Linda
    VIP June 2017
    Linda ·
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    @futuremrsC that is definitely my plan for the future. It gets exhausting catering to everyone else.

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  • Carrie
    Devoted September 2016
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    We don't celebrate thanksgiving (and it's sometimes unfortunately my birthday like it is this year... sigh ugh) so we usually just hang out at home and watch football all day. For Christmas, we split and go separate ways. His parents live several states away from mine and we live in between-ish. So he goes to his parents house, and I go to my parents house. its been working great for the last 6 years Smiley smile

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  • EngineerInLove
    VIP September 2018
    EngineerInLove ·
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    Our decision is going to be decided by FH's schedule every year. This year it's thanksgiving with his family, Christmas with mine. Next year he is working both holidays so either we will spend them with his family then do both with mine in 2019, or spend them separately (which I don't love the idea of).

    We live near his family and mine are 2.5 hours away so visiting both isn't feasible

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  • Melissa
    Expert June 2018
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    His mom joins my family for Thanksgiving. We did it the first time last year and it was amazing. I can't wait for this year.

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  • Danielle
    Super March 2018
    Danielle ·
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    We have always split our day between the two families.

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  • 12.2
    Savvy December 2017
    12.2 ·
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    We're doing both with FH's family this year because of when our wedding is. But we do try to split Thanksgiving with one and Christmas with the other.

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  • HowCo Industries
    VIP September 2018
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    Host! (Ok, maybe not this year.) Legit, when we were looking for our place we were thinking about holidays. You will soon have plenty of dishes, pans and sundry.

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  • FutureMrsBurroughs
    VIP October 2017
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    I am jealous of all of you that have both families close enough to visit in one day. Even more jealous of everyone who gets to bring their spouse or future spouse to family events.

    If my family ever enters this millennium and allows my wife to be in their home we will split the holidays. Our plan was to spend Thanksgiving with one side and Christmas with the other then flip flop the next year. However, my family sucks and won't let DW darken the doorway so...we will be with DW's family.

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  • Chip
    Master March 2018
    Chip ·
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    We're still sorting holidays I think - this will be the 2nd year FH and I have had to split holidays between the families so that we could be together. Last year it was Thanksgiving with his family and Christmas with mine, and this year its flipped.

    I'm a little bitter about it because my family is huge and has large, fun celebrations - but they're also 8 hours from where we live - his family is much quieter, really holidays are like every other day, and we see them very very regularly. - but we've agreed it is what is "fair"

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  • Morgan
    Dedicated May 2017
    Morgan ·
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    This year we are spending Thanksgiving with my husbands family and Christmas with mine. We(and his parents) live in Arizona while all of my family is in Seattle so it makes it a little difficult. His family is very religious and they attend church on Christmas eve and practically all day Christmas so we don't join them because we don't attend that church.

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  • Allie_W
    Dedicated June 2018
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    We always split the day for holidays.

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