First Fight Box?

I've heard about it and was thinking of doing the same. But "First Fight" box, I don't like that name at all. Yuck, who wants to think about your first fight at your wedding. I was going to do it for our 5th anniversary and open to read the notes and drink the wine. I wanted to call it an "Anniversary Box" or something like that. But I got lazy around the wedding and ditched the idea completely, and didn't have any Unity ceremony. No regret.

My cousins did a wedding time capsule that they will open on their 10 year anniversary. They wrote a letter to each other and put wedding mementos into that canister. I think they also had guests write on post cards that they will read on their 5 and 10 year anniversary. I thought the idea was really nice and it would give guests something to do while waiting during cocktail hour.

I find this concept strange. Most couples have likely had at least one fight before they get married so I doubt it would be a "first fight". And if you've been in the relationship for while, you would hopefully have tools and strategies to resolve issues and conflicts with each other, without have to go to respective "corners" and read a letter. It just doesn't seem very adult to me...kind of seems cheesy. I guess I'm just not a fan of these types of things.

An Anniversary Box sounds nice though.

I'm doing more of an anniversary box.. my dad is actually making it for us.

We will be sending out cards with the invites that people will include with thier RSVP. I wrote up a thing for the ceremony ... it starts with "Like good wine, a great love will deepen and mature with age." and then explains our love letters, that will are including our guests cards, and that it will be opened on our anniversary so we can reminisce the night of our wedding and remember the reason we came to share our lives together.

I love the idea of building a time capsule too like GrayCats cousin did.

I do like the time capsule thing better. I had just never heard of anything like this.

I would do the anniversary thing instead.. More romantic

We're doing it as an anniversary box. We're writing letters to each other. We asked our parents to write letters to us as well. Telling us their hopes, dreams, thoughts. We'll put some wedding mementos in it as well and seal it with a bottle of wine and open it on our 5 year anniversary.

We are doing this at our ceremony. I heard of it being called a unity box. You are supposed to open it on your tenth anniversary, or if unfortunately your marriage is in serious trouble. But not just for any fight.

We're doing this! But as an anniversary box

We call it 'wine and words' and it is to be opened on the 10th anniversary or during a rough patch.

I find it hard to believe that any couples get married before they have at least ONE fight. This is a very weird concept...

We do this and call it either a "Time Capsule" or a "Wine and Letter Box". We suggest opening it on the 5th Anniversary and every 5 years after-with new letters added each time. We talk to the couples about opening it if they ever are considering if the marriage will survive. We do not use that language in the ceremony itself--that is about love and memories.

Yeah we are doing this and it's called a "wine and letters" box in our ceremony. But it seems neat, and my mom and dad worked together to make the box so it will be a special thing to display at home.