First Dance

Up to you but it would be awkward for me to be in the bridal party and dancing with someone I didn't know.

My friend did this at her wedding, they started off the song by themselves, then asked the bp and their dates to come out and join them.
That way you still get your dance alone but it’s not 3 minutes of awkward.

We did half ourselves and then invited the bridal party and their significant others up to finish the song with us.

We are doing as PP's have said but we are changing the song 1/2 way through to a song that is known as our get the party started song in our group. We are not telling the BP but they will know what to do once they hear the beginning of it. I could not imagine being stared at for our entire first song.

Do your WP members all know each other? Are any of them have SOs who aren't also in the WP? I would consider that asking your WP to pair up and slow dance during your first dance would be extremely awkward if they are having to dance with someone they barely know or are wishing they were instead dancing with their SO...their SO who is sitting there watching their one and only dance with someone else.

I would be less weirded out if you had your DJ announce that it's your wish that everyone join you on the dance floor for your first dance. This way, people get to dance with their dates and you and your FS won't be alone on the dance floor.

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That is actually a really good idea

First dance no longer than 1 minute and 30 seconds. I do find it weird when the wedding party joins the first dance, and dances as well because it's remiss of a quinceañera and the girls court.

View Quoted Comment Having the DJ announce sounds awesome. Thank you!

We are inviting all couples to join us, as none of the BP are coupled.

We did the first minute Buyer selves. Then head to DJ open it up for our guests to join us. Everyone joined us at that point. It was nice to have our time but I couldn’t imagine doing an entire song by ourselves

I've seen it done where they actually share the first dance with all the couples, then the DJ will ask the other couples to remain if they have been together for 10+ years, 20+, and so on, and at the end, have that couple say a couple words of advice on how they made it so long.

If you want them to be with you then sure, but I agree with some PP's that it would be awkward. The first dance is supposed to be an all eyes on you moment as you are coming out for your first presentation as bride and groom! I also agree that doing half of the song alone and fininshing with BP is a good idea though.

My DH was very anxious about doing a first dance, so we danced the first 30 seconds or so by ourselves and then had the bandleader ask everyone to join us. It actually worked out wonderfully and a friend shared a video she took of it and it brought tears to my eyes. We ended the song with his mom dancing with him and his dad dancing with me (not planned, just happened) and we are all crying happy tears!

You don’t have to do a first dance at all if you don’t want to. There’s no rule, and you should only do things you are both comfortable with.

At almost every wedding I’ve been to, the DJ invites everyone to join the dance floor at some point during the song which is lovely.

I am not entirely sure about the first dance on our wedding day... i feel terrified even thinking about doing it, but at the same time it seems to be a nice tradition. We are getting married in London and my friend knows a great place in Piccadilly (I think the name is Inspiration 2 Dance - she went there herself). Has anyone tried hire a dance teacher in London to help with the first dance?