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First dance?

Emily, on February 28, 2020 at 10:10 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 6

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I am really struggling with the idea of a first dance. My FH and I don’t dance and the wedding reception we’ve planned doesn’t include dancing or a “party” vibe at all. We’ve decided to ditch the parent dance for his side and mine but I’ve always felt like first dances were just a thing that you had to have! Is there another type of “first” that we can do instead of dancing?? We’ll have music but it’s going to be much more in the background while we do other things and socialize. What other things can you guys think of or have seen? I’d love to do something as our first together as a married couple but really not loving the idea of a dance.

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Latest activity by Ally, on February 29, 2020 at 5:05 PM

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Melle · on February 28, 2020 at 10:39 AM
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So I went to a wedding a few months ago or so and they didn’t do a dam thing aha they had a projector with a slideshow going on and some background music along with a photo booth and some tables where people can do a scrapbook or give them date ideas but generally everyone just mingled amongst themselves because they didn’t do any dances or any speeches or any games and there wasn’t even a dance floor. I still had a good time though
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Tia · on February 28, 2020 at 10:45 AM
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It is a personal choice. Do what you feel comfortable doing. It’s your day!
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Alex · on February 28, 2020 at 11:00 AM
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If you want to do it, you could cut the song shorter. One of my good friends did this at her wedding. They cut the song down from like 3.5 minutes to 1.5 minutes (just a verse and chorus). No one even noticed. They weren't super comfortable dancing, but still wanted to have it.
As for timing, you could have your first dance right after your walk into the reception before you sit down to dinner. That way it feels natural that the music is turned up and then back down.
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Hope · on February 28, 2020 at 11:23 AM
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We are doing a first dance which will last about 1 minute until our DJ will invites others to join. We told her we’d like to have one but not for the entire song because that’s just weird lol
She said most weddings she has done does it this way.
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Maggie · on February 28, 2020 at 2:02 PM
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There is literally no reason to have a "first dance" unless you want it. I wouldn't worry about not having it or trying to replace it with another first. Everything after the "I dos" is a first. First kiss, first toast/drink, first meal, etc. You are completely fine without a "party vibe"; it will still fell like a celebration! And especially if you aren't having any dancing, no one will miss it.
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Ally · on February 29, 2020 at 5:05 PM
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I think it would be perfectly fine if you didn’t have a first dance! I’m not sure about another “first” to do, but I always like the shoe game or something similar during the reception. Some people think they’re cheesy, but I think it’s a lot of fun! It can kind of lighten the mood and gives a good laugh for your guests. 😊
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