First dance song, is the meaning "inappropriate"?

Honestly, every song is up to interpretation. I love that song and I can totally see where you're coming from with "actions speak louder than words". I can also see it from a sex standpoint, but I mean so what? People are gonna interpret how they want, all that matters is what it means to you and your FH!

The song I've chosen to dance with my dad is "Wonderful Tonight" by Eric Clapton. In the song, he's talking about how beautiful his girlfriend/wife is and how much he loves her and my mom FREAKED out about it saying it was inappropriate for a father/daughter dance song (he never mentions sex at all, just admiring the woman he loves). I told her that song has a lot of meaning for me and my dad (we have a home video of him dancing with me as a little girl to this song, it's one of his favorites and I learned it on piano for him for his birthday). The way I interpret the song is just about telling a woman how much he loves her and how beautiful she is, things my dad has always told me. Needless to say, I'm sticking with my song choice and my dad is totally on board! I think you should do the same!

I hear what they are saying about it being a sad song and it really does sound like the guy singing is wishing his partner would do more than say it. If you are really concerned with the meaning like that, go with your gut and change it.

HOWEVER, if you are only worried what others will think about it, stick to your guns and choose the song you want to dance to. Have you asked your partner about the matter? This is an intimate moment of your first dance as a married couple and should be about what the two of you feel when you hear the song. If anyone says anything, tell them about its meaning for you. The whole day is about the two of you. Dont get too caught up in how everyone else thinks.

Go with Eric Benet..I love that song and it's definitely love one. I am playing it as a processional to the family walking in💖

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Lol at your mom freaking out. I think I'll plan "My Girl" with my dad which I can see being about a daughter or a wife.

Anyway, I guess for me the meaning behind the song of More Than Words is because my fiance isn't the best speaker where he spills his guts professing his love to me to the world but he shows me in so many little ways. That's how I interpret the song, how action is so important.

I think I'll stick to it because I could totally see us holding back tears of joy dancing to this haha.

@Kristal, I haven't really talked to him about the meaning behind it but he indicated that he'd want this song. I think he wouldn't care about what everyone else thought lol, at least the song is the kind up for interpretation depending how you view it.

Do what you want, don't worry about other people. I bet you anything no one will even remember what song you danced to. It's what you want to dance to, it's about you two. Don't cater to others when it comes to the important bits that you two will remember, but x, y and z -- won't. We all think that people will remember every detail about our wedding, but I can tell you about a wedding from some of my best friends, not even a year ago (Oct 24) and I can't tell you what the heck they danced to ...nor from my Sister's wedding (without being told)... actually no weddings I remember the first dance song that people have done (I was reminded of my Sister's father/daughter and first dance because I asked my Mother to remind me so I didn't use them).

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Funny enough you mentioned that date, we just set that as our date officially today! 10/24/20!

You're right! It's a moment us two would probably remember really.The only song I remember someone danced to was my sister from her first marriage several years ago because it was my very first wedding and I was like 11. LOL!

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Aaaah! Congratulations.

That is definitely a coincidence. Mine is actually this week, so that's why I'm telling you not to sweat it. I've already had this issue and I finally have simmered down and basically said: "this is -my- wedding". Hell, we're having The Misfits - Dig up her Bones & Saturday Night for our Garter/Boquet Toss. Totally inappropriate, but it's our wedding and we love Metal/Punk/Etc. I'm walking down the Aisle to Metallica's -- And Justice for All (the string version, but don't think I didn't think about the original) and my wedding party is Master of Puppets (string for that, too). Enjoy your wedding, no one will remember the finer details for extended periods of time. Someone might for a few months, but it definitely will not be a forever thing like it will for you two.

I just googled and found the songwriter's meaning for writing this.

"He complained that the word "love" became too overused. For "More Than Words," they decided, "Let's write something that is about showing it, not just saying it or singing it in a song." The song wasn't related to a specific person or a particular relationship; it was just a belief that they had."
https://www.ultimate-guitar.com/articles/features/the_story_behind_more_than_words_by_extreme-68299

Not sure why everyone think its sad or about sex. It's just a belief apparently that you need to show love not just simply say it.

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Oh and congrats!

Use whatever song you want. It doesn’t mean anything to anyone but the two of you, so go with what makes you happy. I happen to really like the song as well and think it’s an excellent choice. And if someone thinks it’s about sex, so be it. You’ll be married so any propriety about abstinence is out the window anyway.

The song is about love, and it is a beautiful song. Great choice

On a side note, I actually knew the lead singer Gary Cherone when we worked together at a record store. He was incredibly sweet (and wicked cute). I would have a hard time thinking he would write a song that was bad!!

Not sure if anyone will see this, but we are getting married soon 2/24/24 and we really wanted this song for our 1st dance too, but when I got to looking up the meaning, I was also wondering if it was appropriate (I didn't think it sounded sexual, but more sad as he wasn't feeling loved.) This post has helped me so much. I think we will stick with it. We believe the actions are more important that just speaking the words, and that's what it means to us.

So a few years later, thank you all for the help. Nikki