First dance or no first dance?

We picked a very short more fun song (Adam Sandler grow old with you from the movie the wedding singer). You can always do the beginning solo but have the dj welcome married couples to join after 30 seconds or so. Does that mean no father daughter dance?

We are having no dancing at our wedding at all. There will still be music for background noise but I am not much of a dancer and the FH is not either, unless they are really goofy dances which we would never do in front of anyone.

If you think you will be uncomfortable dancing on your on with your FH then I don't see a problem with not doing one.

Side note, I also asked my dad about the father/daughter dance, he was also on board with not doing one.

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If we do it I would also do a father daughter dance. Having people join in isn't a bad idea I never thought of that.

I don't think feeling that way is wrong, and that you should only do one if you want to. Personally, as a wedding guest, I always enjoy seeing the couple have their first dance, but I'm sure not everyone feels that way.

I am also self-conscious, but feel that I will be too caught up in the moment to care. I'll also be excited and proud to dance with my new husband in front of our family and friends, and will work through whatever awkwardness I feel.

We're not doing any special dances, either. There will be a DJ and dance floor that everyone is welcome to, but we're not singling anyone out.

I'm doing the first dance mother son dance and father daughter dance. I'm a shy person too. I'm also doing a song for our parents to dance together because they never got their first dance.

My DH was very anxious about doing a first dance and didn't decide until literally 5 minutes before we did it. We decided to have the bandleader invite everyone to join us after about 30 seconds. I actually am really glad we invited everyone because it turned out to be one of my favorite memories of the night.

Personally I HATE being the center of attention. I get awkward real quick. Not to mention the dress and the heals and the hair and ugh. To try to combat this, we are playing slide shows- my FH and I are dancing to 500 Miles by Sleeping At Last white pictures of us throughout our relationship play on the background.
mother/daughter dance (my dad isn’t going)- will have pictures of me growing up
mother/son dance- will have pictures of FH growing up
my goal is people will be more focused on the picture slide show then they will us, or even if they just glance back and forth at least that takes some eyes off of us. I think I just want to be in that moment with my FH and not the world. Either way I’ll still feel awkward but I’m hoping this helps.