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Savvy June 2021

First dance options

Sarah, on July 13, 2020 at 7:23 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 11
Hey y’all! My fiancé and I really DREAD the thought of our first dances (together, with our mom/dad). I’ll just cry the whole time and we don’t want that kind of attention. Our parents feel the same. Are there any fun options y’all have done or seen? Group dances? Funny things to do to take the pressure off?


We sound like two duds, but I promise we aren’t!

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Latest activity by Elizabeth, on July 19, 2020 at 12:20 PM
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    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    The only other thing I can think of is you can just make it a really short dance
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  • Llcool_Kay
    Expert July 2021
    Llcool_Kay ·
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    How about doing a non traditional dance? Like maybe the Hokie Pokey? Or dance to a cool song and maybe wear sunglasses to make it funky! My parents would be totally down for something fun and quirky. Hope that helps!
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    Savvy June 2021
    Sarah ·
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    I like it! Thanks!
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  • Sinaya
    Devoted August 2022
    Sinaya ·
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    I feel awkward about doing a slow dance with my dad so I chose an upbeat song (Isn’t She Lovely by Stevie Wonder). So maybe pic something upbeat and fun. And like another poster said you can all do it as a group.
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    Savvy June 2021
    Sarah ·
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    Good idea!! Love it thank you
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  • Allie
    VIP November 2021
    Allie ·
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    You could always have the entire bridal party dance with you for your first dance so it takes some pressure off of you. I’ve been to weddings where they have the bride and groom dance for like 30 seconds alone, then the bridal party joins for another 30 seconds, then all of the guests join in. It was a fun way to keep the attention off of just the bride and groom.
    For parent dances, I agree with the others who said maybe do something upbeat. If it’s not going to hurt anyone’s feelings to skip the mother/son father/daughter dance, then just skip them altogether.
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  • Stacey
    Super May 2021
    Stacey ·
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    You could replace that time with the anniversary dance instead. That way everyone is out on the dance floor with you and you're the first ones to sit down. Smiley smile

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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    1. If you're really that uncomfortable, you can just skip it. 2. Our DJ told us a signal (start swaying slowly and holding hands), which would let him know when we were over the dance and he would fade it out. He said people rarely do the whole song.
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  • Caitlin
    Beginner September 2020
    Caitlin ·
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    We feel the same way - so we are just skipping it all together and starting the fun dance portion of the evening! Our DJ had a great idea to get everyone up and dancing - say there is a group photo of the dance floor and then the photographer takes a few shots, then the DJ drops a good song that gets everyone dancing!

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    Savvy June 2021
    Sarah ·
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    I love that idea!! Thank you
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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    I'm going to cry when I dance with my dad, I just know it. So we're going to use the full length of the song, but after a bit, my fiancé will cut in, my mom will join my dad, and my FIL and MIL will join us so there's three couples dancing. Then I only have to make it about a minute without crying! Then we'll invite the siblings to join, then the bridal party, and then the whole group. After that my parents will do their toast/speech and invite everyone to sit down for dinner.

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