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Jenna
January 2020

First dance dilemma...

Jenna, on December 29, 2019 at 6:06 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 9
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I have always wanted to do a daddy daughter dance to this special song that I've wanted as a little girl. Fiancé is VERY against dancing. My mom thought that before giving me away my dad and I could share "one last dance" and then he would give me to my fiance. This allows me to have my dance and for FI and I not to have one and he doesn't have to do one with his mom. When I brought this up to my FI, he was very unhappy with the idea because it would be awkward for him standing at the alter for 2 minutes. Then he got all up in arms about how I told everyone it's just a ceremony and brunch and we aren't doing anything a traditional wedding is having because we are having it casual and simple. Which I totally understand. I told my mom that I could just walk down the aisle to my song with my dad and we would just play the chorus or something. So now I'm stuck. My dad's upset, FI’s upset and i don’t know how to please everyone. So I need something to please all the people. Anyone have clever ideas?

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Latest activity by Angel, on December 30, 2019 at 4:30 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Your FH should be able to compromise. I don’t see why you can’t share a dance with your father at brunch, it doesn’t mean your husband has to participate.
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  • V
    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    Your husband honestly should just deal with it. The fact that he is against dancing is very strange. It is also not right that he would want to prevent you from having this special moment with your father.
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  • Madelyn
    Dedicated June 2020
    Madelyn ·
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    Could you do a first look with your dad and dance with him then?
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  • Katlyn
    Devoted December 2021
    Katlyn ·
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    I also think this would be a good option. But unless your FI has religious reasons why he is against it, I think he should be more willing to give in a bit. You aren't asking for much. It's just a dance for crying out loud.

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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    This is your wedding too. Your FH needs to let you have this special moment with your dad.
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  • Dierdra
    Super August 2021
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    Very sweet idea!

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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
    Mandi ·
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    I mean yeah, the dance at the altar would be super awkward. I agree with him.
    Tbh, it's your day. It's his day too, but if you want to dance with your father, you should. And he needs to man up and stop whining.
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  • Catherine
    VIP November 2019
    Catherine ·
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    I totally think your FH should compromise with you on this. this is your FATHER! your last dance with him - i think he could allow you one dance. that doesn't keep your wedding from being non traditional.

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  • Angel
    Expert August 2020
    Angel ·
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    You should definitely have a father daughter dance if that's what you both want to do. FH doesn't have a say in that - but if he doesn't want to have a first dance with you, then that's something you two can decide on together. He shouldn't stop you from doing something that means a lot to you at your wedding.

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