Firing my wedding planner....

If it's not a good fit I would say to let her go (especially if that's what your guy is saying), just say "I don't really think we are on the same page when it comes to the wedding."

But how does this affect your financing? Do you have a contract signed for her services? Do you still have to pay her full price for the work?

"Thank you for your assistance, but we decided to go another route. Have a great day!"

If she isn't following your budget and haven't signed a contract, yes I would fire her too. I would just tell her you have decided to go a different route and no longer need her services.

Hmmm....can you get to the bottom of why she's pushing you out of budget? How does her fee structure work? Do you pay her a flat fee or does she get kickbacks from these more expensive vendors? Did you show her a vision and she's now showing you the reality cost of that vision?

@janeen, I think it has more to do with the fact that she is weathly, and used to working with weathly clients. Just an example....I found invites on Etsy that I loved. The person who makes them sent me 2 options. One had heavy card stock for the response card, and one just had thicker paper. I chose the one with the thicker paper because it was over $1 cheaper per invite. They looked exactly the same, the paper was just a little less solid. She was not a fan of the cheaper option. Also, I actually had to lie and say that I am having my invites hand addressed by a caligrapher, because prior to that discussion, she went on about how people should never do the print off labels because it is tacky. Im sorry, but that is not something I am dropping money on when I can do it myself for the price of some sticky labels.

Whoa! Definitely get rid of her because that is ridiculous!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I do planning & rentals for my clients and NEVER would I charge someone $100 a table! I mean I wouldn't even spend that much! That is totally a rip off! It sounds like the wedding planner is trying to get over on you BIG time! So what if you want to go the cheaper route because of your strict budget, weddings can be done on a strict budget and STILL look fabulous! What she fails to understand is that this is YOUR big day not hers! It's her job to help you save a little money not go over your budget, if you're in love with your invites then she should be loving them right with you not because of what she thinks is tacky!! Ugghhhh! Let me stop, this boils my blood hearing stuff like this. But Kearsten since you have no contract with her, I'd let her go. I agree with Rosemary..."Thank you for your time.........." and let her go. You do not need the stress! Especially from someone who obviously doesn't care about your wedding and is in it to make a quick buck rich or not and you don't have time for that. I'd move on and find someone else if you can. Not trying to be mean especially since its someone you know well but sometimes we have to do what we have to do, and I wish nothing but the best for you! I hope it works out! Good Luck hun

I had the same problem with my florist who was also doing the event decor. He kept pushing me into more expensive choices even though he knew the budget and then would make me feel guilty if I said I didn't want something . Finally I just had to fire him and lose my $500 deposit . It was an awkward conversation but I basically told him there was a lot of DIY I have decided would work better ...his contract didn't allow any DIY. I found a new florist that is awesome and stayed within my budget and I get to buy my own tablecloths etc and save a ton of $

If she is someone who know and are worried about hurting her feelings just say you want to take a more hands on approached than you previously thought.

Thank you everyone!!! I will keep you posted on how this turns out.

I would also not talk around for long, just tell her that you are in a budget and you have the feeling she is not working with that information, thus you need to part on this project.

Question for you: where did you find the table cloths/runners/seat covers? Thanks a lot!

We actually talked to two really pushy/opinionated "wedding planners" at bridal shows. I don't know if maybe I "don't get it" or they think they are actually decorators. I talked at length with one lady who said she takes charge of all the decorating. When I explained that I actually own a shop and I already bought all the decor you could hear her jaw hit the floor. She then cackled about the flowers I am going to order from Kroger. When I explained that I wanted small bouquets for the tables so they would not be overwhelmed, she said "that will look small and cheap". When I asked if she had a rate for coming to set up and take down again she looked at me like I was nuts. Some of these people charge $2000 and want complete reign over your wedding - others are just there to be assistants. If you are like me and need an "assistant" someone you can pay to help set up and take down and answer questions for vendors, you can hire someone from Craigslist to do that.

Mary - table decor that includes florals from a professional floral designer can easily be more than $100 per table. It is not necessarily a "rip off", depending on what that amount includes.

Having said that OP, any planner you hire should respect and work within your budget. Perhaps you should first try to discuss your concerns with her and if she can't work with your budget, then I agree with letting her know you are going in a different direction. But recognize that you will have to pay her for time / work she has already done.