Okay so I know this sounds bad, but hear me out. My brother and I have always had a strained relationship. We never speak unless our mom forces us into a room together, and even then it’s barely civil. Out of respect for my mom and her wishes, we asked my brother to be in the wedding party as a groomsman. Now, he is completely ignoring all of FH’s brother (and best man)’s attempts to contact him about the bachelor party. When I questioned my mom about it, she said he wasn’t interest in golfing and going to the bars. I told her that he could at least be courteous to my future BIL by saying he won’t be attending. But he refuses to do that. I complained to my mom that if he was going to be a miserable ass then he didn’t have to be in the wedding. She said she conveyed that message as nicely as she could but he didn’t respond. He still hasn’t acknowledged any attempts to include him in bachelor party things or acknowledge that he got my message about the tux fittings. My fiancé is getting sick of it and wants my brother out. Honestly, I never wanted him in, but we included him out of respect for my mom. Would it be horrible if we told him to just forget about it?? The only reason I am hesitating is because I don’t know if it will do any damage to my relationship with mom because she’s trying to get him involved and might say I didn’t give him enough of a chance. Our wedding is in 2 MONTHS. If we need a replacement groomsman, we need to know what my brother is thinking ASAP or force him out altogether. HELP!