Fired as a bridesmaid

I don't think it's ever appropriate to ask for a gift back. Depending on the circumstances, I could see asking her to reimburse you for the dress, but if she declines I'm not sure there's much you can do.

I think it's appropriate to ask if she will reimburse you for the dress. If she says no, you can always try to return it or sell it. Obviously, you haven't provided any details to why this has happened, nonetheless, sorry you're in this position!

View Quoted Comment Thanks! It has been a terrible experience. I don't want to be dramatic but I went above any beyond for a good friend who I hadn't talked to for 2-3 years prior to her engagement and it blew up in my face. Just wondering what the typical etiqutte is- what would you expect in this situation? I believe she wants the dress to give to a new bridesmaid and wants to pay for the dress only not alterations or any of the party stuff& wants to keep the gift.

View Quoted Comment That's a shame. If I was the bride in this situation, and for some reason I felt it was right to dismiss you, I wouldn't keep your gift. I don't know why she would want a gift from someone she wants to end a friendship with, whether its warranted or not, ya know? If she is willing to buy the dress back for most of the cost, if I were you, I would let her buy it. Of course, be sure you get the money before handing over the dress. If you can return any of the party supplies you bought, do that. Personally, I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who kicked me out of the wedding. I wouldn't hesitate to at least ask to get your money back. She might not care but what's there to lose at this point. Some lessons are expensive!

A gift is a gift, I'm sure you're not worried so much about that. It's weird to keep it but people are like that.
Now the $600 you sunk on her? I say fair game to ask for, and get the money, or cash the check before returning the dress to her. Have all of it in your account.

I feel your pain. A similar thing happened to me 4 years ago. She removed me after I brought my dress and gave money towards her shower. She did it over the phone just before the dress alteration I never got a dime back and the dress is still in plastic. She still had the nerve to expect me to be at the bridal shower and at the wedding. I say pursue via small claims court or cut your losses and continue to live life.

View Quoted Comment I think I was a victim of someone asking me to be a bridesmaid not because of how important I was as a friend, but more as a prop. She is giving the dress to a new prop now! We were good friends but hadn't spoken more than a couple of times in 2-3 years. I was happy to be there for her& was having fun getting to know her again. But I won't miss her and no we won't be friends. And thanks so much for your perspective.

View Quoted Comment That's terrible I'm so sorry. I have read that paying back the dress is very customary if the bride picked the dress.

View Quoted Comment It sounds that way. Ugh that's a mess. I'm glad you'll be able to move forward without that sort of person in your life.

Same thing happened to me several years ago. Dumped a ton of money into shoes and dress and bachelorette party favors. We kept having issues and she asked me to step down 3 days before the wedding. I had already bought her a very nice bridal shower gift. Sadly I just ate the cost and should the 200.00 dress for 60 and said screw it. Sorry this happened to you and your friend. Best thing is to try and move forward.

Return the gift.
If you can't, figure out something else to do with it.
If she wants the dress for the other bridesmaid, have her buy it from you.

View Quoted Comment I cut ties also

It sounds like the friendship is over, so I would just count the gift and money as a loss and the friendship as no more.

Depends on why you were fired. If you did something then no. But if she fired you for something lame or what ever, then the cost of party and dress Id ask for back because those thing were obligated by her from you and she fell through on her end of the agreement. The gift no.