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Beginner October 2017

Fire wedding planner?

brideybride, on January 13, 2017 at 2:16 PM Posted in Planning 0 12

I hired my wedding planner over a month ago (destination wedding). I liked her style and she had positive reviews. I'm planning my wedding from a distance and was really hoping to have a confident take handle things at my location. She is very sweet and nice but since we have started nothing has gotten done. The first budget she presented me was way off and didnt reflect anything we had discussed and I haven't seen a revised one. That was over 3 weeks ago. I told her that band and photographers are my number one concern, still haven't seen any options. She presented me with a floral proposal and wanted me to sign that day (florist is a friend), but I dont even have a budget! Her communication has been very bad lately, and it turns out she had a baby yesterday. On top of all that I found her advertising her prices for $500 less than what she charged me. I don't want to fire someone who just had a baby, but I'm worried nothing is getting done for my wedding.

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Latest activity by MJ, on January 13, 2017 at 8:26 PM
  • Angela
    VIP April 2017
    Angela ·
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    Did you sign a contract with her? If not, it sounds like a good idea to find someone else who isn't taking care of a newborn

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  • B
    Beginner October 2017
    brideybride ·
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    Yes have a contract. Have only paid the deposit. I don't want to judge based on having the baby. I am concerned that nothing was done before the baby came ( I didnt know she was pregnant). My wedding is in October and besides the venue that I have booked nothing else is done.

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  • Mrs. Sasswood
    Master October 2016
    Mrs. Sasswood ·
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    How do you even know it's because she's taking care of a newborn? Maybe I'm being over sensitive today but this sounds like mom shaming to me. You're not her only client, she's probably busy. Don't blame it on her having a kid- you wouldn't be happy if people did that to you.

    If you're unhappy in general, use someone else. But it also sounds like you haven't given her much time.

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  • B
    Beginner October 2017
    brideybride ·
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    I wasn't blaming it on her being a mom. I don't want to assume that it won't work because she has a baby. She literally just gave birth yesterday, and that was why she was MIA for a couple days - I'm ok with that. I'm upset in the month beforehand I wasn't listened to and nothing got done. I was thinking about terminating the relationship before I found out she had a baby. Now I feel bad doing it right after she gave birth.

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  • Rachel DellaPorte
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    Why did you hire a woman who was eight months pregnant and expect her to get as much done as you expected? Eight months is a pretty uncomfortable time, not to mention exhaustion is a huge issue. Even if she weren't pregnant, I'm not certain you've given her enough time. And as for caring for a newborn, moms work every day with newborns. It's certainly not a deal-breaker. I'm certain she doesn't want a bad review, and she probably knows that she can get things done as soon as she's back on her feet (which is today's world, could be a week).

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    Beginner October 2017
    brideybride ·
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    I didn't know she was pregnant until she sent me a text saying she had a baby. I also wouldn't want to discriminate against a woman for being pregnant. I wish I had a heads up to set my expectations, but she kept that information to herself. I want to give her the time to have with her new family, but I'm also concerned with what I need to get done.

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  • Andrea Davis
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    You actually have more than enough time to book all your vendors and have everything come together. I have worked with brides that have put together an entire wedding in less than 5 months. So time is not the biggest issue here. Communication is a whole other story though. I give my brides nothing more than a 24 hour turn around time for communication. Even if it is to tell them that I will get back to them at another time. It's more so about common courtesy than anything else. Chances are you will loose your deposit if you let her go. Just something to think about...

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  • Chantel
    Devoted July 2017
    Chantel ·
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    Where are you getting married? If in the Caribbean or Latin America, trust me when I say this, they are on a different time. I too have a planner with my venue and she is good in some things and slow with others. I would gather a list of things that are urgent to you and insist those portions are a priority. On the other hand I would cut her some slack considering the baby. My wedding planner always tells me we have enough time, meanwhile I'm less than 6 months out. If you hired a company and she was assigned to you and you're very concerned then I'd speak to the manager and express your concerns. But @alyssachu is right. They work heavily on the weddings coming up in a 3 month period and go on as such.

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  • Mrs.D
    Master July 2016
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    I think you need to relax.

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  • Blair Waldorf
    Master October 2017
    Blair Waldorf ·
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    She could have been busy with all the holidays that just happened as well as other events...duh. End of year is crazy for every business

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  • MJ
    Dedicated October 2018
    MJ ·
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    I would say to relax just a little. She was 8 months pregnant over the past month and you don't know what could have taken place within that time. Also, destination weddings aren't the hardest to plan, especially when the planner is in said location. I think you should be concerned if you don't hear from her for periods of time at a time, but please understand that brides stress about their wedding because we are anxious and want to get things done... your planner is probably relaxing a little right now because she knows she has time to do what needs to be done. You're okay, I promise. Don't over think it!

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  • MJ
    Dedicated October 2018
    MJ ·
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    Also, it's engagement season. Almost all wedding vendor's phones and emails are going crazy right now. She's probably just a little busy on top of giving birth. I know it's hard, but we have to remember to cut some slack before thinking the worse- unless of course, she gives you a reason to worry.

    Also, about pricing, maybe she's running a special right now?

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