Finding the “one”...please share the moment you knew they were the “one”

My moment...

That Beachhouse vacation when we fell in love

Aw that is cute. I knew before we even had a first date. I could tell I was already falling for him and then one day it just clicked and knew he was the one for me.
I asked him what career options did he consider other than what he is now. He’s a school guidance counselor. He said he considered being a lawyer but decided against it because that kind of world where you have to get ahead of one another just wasn’t a life he wanted. And I don’t know it just clicked with me that he is amazing and I wanted more with him and I wanted him to be the one for me.
Because with that answer I just could see him — he’s a guidance counselor because he’s insightful, and caring and thoughtful. He’s a good person. I just knew that that’s the kind of person I wanted to be with.

View Quoted Comment Congratulations! It’s so wonderful when you know when you know! Best wishes!

That’s so sweet! I actually had this weird gut feeling when I met my husband... the first time we met, I didn’t even learn his name and we only talked for about 30 seconds in passing, but I felt this strange connection to him and like somehow I knew I was going to see him again and I knew he was going to be important to me? I almost wouldn’t believe myself that I ACTUALLY thought that at the time, except that I texted my friend about it and still have the messages that I sent about him 😂


Of course, we DID meet again, got to be friends, and very quickly started dating. During the first week of our relationship I could already feel how special he was and had a feeling he was the one. We were just always so comfortable together right from the start. Even on our very first dates, it felt like we had known each other for a very long time. I couldn’t explain it. My husband is much more sappy than I am (lol) and he always said he felt like we must’ve known each other in another life. I never believed in things like that, but honestly, it really felt like it!


I knew he was “the one” for sure about 2-3 months into our relationship... we were in college, and I was so anxious about my exams that I barely slept one night, and I had a huge paper due the next day. I was too anxious to nap, but too tired to work. So he skipped his own class to come over and comfort me. He laid down in my bed with me and literally within 5 minutes I was sound asleep... his presence was just so comforting! And when I woke up, I discovered that while I was asleep he had started outlining my paper for me 😭 I asked him why he did all this (when he had his own work too!) and he just said “because I’ll always put your happiness first.” How could I ask for more?!

Funny enough for me I knew my FH was the one when I broke up with him! I had been with my (now) FH for about 10-11 months and I just felt like we were too different and that we wouldn't be the right fit for one another long term. I broke up with him and for about a week (until we got back together) I was absolutely miserable and realised I couldn't live without him. It took me losing him to realise what I had!

5 years later and we are getting married

I love Dirty Dancing - my dad and I used to watch it all the time when I was a kid. (Took me until my 20s to figure out why, but I got there!)

I knew DH was the one when I set eyes on him. He was outside a theatre in NYC, wearing a Phillies shirt. We spent the first 20 minutes of the rest of our lives talking hard about baseball. Our wedding was baseball themed. We're having a hard time right now, because there hasn't been baseball... or theatre...

But, yeah, there was this really cute guy wearing my favorite team's shirt, in a rival city, waiting to let me into a theatre.... Minor glitch of him being over 6 years younger, but I texted my dad and my best friend that day, that I'd met the perfect guy.

I actually knew my husband for three years - we worked for the same team as developers- but we're both shy and quiet. It was only when we got put on the same project and spent time together that I realized how funny and smart and warm he actually was! Of course, he asked me out for Valentine's day - like a true sap - and when we finally had our first kiss I kind of just knew. We were both equally nerdy and equally passionate about the same things; we love dogs and we love video games and we have similar anxiety issues and thus can talk each other down. But I guess I really knew when he took a chance and kissed me after being nervous about holding my hand.

I had known my FH for 10 years, but when I met him we were in high school and things were complicated, then he got a new girlfriend and we lost touch for a few years. When we reconnected with the idea we could date, I knew it wasn’t ever going to end because he was always exactly what I wanted and needed. I knew 90% for sure on our first date, but I was 100% sure on our second date when we went to a donut stand and he forgot to say thank you to the man who gave us our donuts, so he turned around to go back and thank him. My heart was just filled in that moment.

That's precious. I love that movie. I actually just bought the soundtrack on vinyl yesterday! I knew FH was the one because although no one could visually see, I would get so nervous.


I would be more sarcastic with him than anyone else and one time we went to hang out and I hugged him, I literally felt the inside of my body just melt.
I felt like I was deadweight in his arms. It was like my soul just escaped me or something or maybe I had just got it back lol I don't know. I admitted later on how I felt after that hug and asked him if he noticed.
He says no but I don't know if he's telling the truth. A year and 4 months in, he proposed and admitted that he had started planning to propose after 9 months into our relationship but was just waiting for the right time to do it.

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Awww! The soul always knows!

View Quoted Comment Yes! I had NEVER felt anything like that before. Everyone around me even said I was a different person. That I was glowing and I definitely wasn't pregnant lol. It just confirmed a lot of things for me and I'm still head over heels.

View Quoted Comment I so believe in the notion that our souls have a counter point and when you find the other, you have peace. There is nothing quite like it and people spend their days searching for it, unbeknownst to the mind...but our souls know...congrats!!

I can’t say for sure when I knew he was the one, but our first date we had to be asked to leave the restaurant because they were closing. We had somehow managed to spend 4 hours talking and not realizing what was going on around us.

AWWW that's such a sweet story!! I love dirty dancing and that scene!! How sweet!! That's wonderful that he pays attention to what you need and want!!

So I knew my FH was the one when we first hung out together. We went to the wetlands with our mutual friend, his girlfriend at the time, and our mutual friend's brother. We walked around and I could just tell he was it and my soul just said "oh there you are". I was in another relationship at the time and told myself no you can't just because everything in your body says yes. So the next day I had to really see if he was, so we went to Starbucks and in that cramped place it felt like him and I were the only ones there. We discussed everything, from past relationships to our parents, to how we see life and the future. I knew then I had to break up with guy I was seeing and slowly get into a relationship with my FH. We are actually celebrating our 3 years together this Saturday! People told me that when you find the one you know and honestly it's so true.

The phrase "You just know" used to frustrate me so much; I never felt that in my first marriage but then I met and got closer to who I'm with now, and there it was!

Instant connection, compatibility, and trust. I told myself for a long time that it was just a close friendship (I was recently divorced/convinced all men were trolls) but then I noticed how his eyes twinkle, and his laugh fills a room. And all I wanted to do was spend more time together.

Smitten kitten ever since

So sweet 🥰congrats to you both. I knew right away as well that I found my husband. We just clicked like I have never clicked with someone before.

I knew before meeting him ☺️
A mutual friend introduced us. When she described him as a “single, Catholic, architect that went to college in NOLA” I was sold.

I’m from NOLA and in my new city it’s hard to find a good Catholic guy. Hours after meeting him I called a different friend and told her I just met my husband. Our first official date was a week after meeting and we have been together ever since 🙂

We were high school sweethearts. When we met I knew there was something special about him, but I had a boyfriend. We became friends anyway, and when my boyfriend dumped me a few months later, it became a joke with our friends that we were meant to be. We had the biggest crushes on each other, but at 15 and 16 were both really shy. It took 2 months for him to ask me out. 6 weeks later we had our King of Hearts (valentines) dance. So far we had only hung out at school, bowling with a big group, and one visit to my house for a New Years party, so we were still trying to get to know each other. The dance was a dream and at one point he pulled me on to the dance floor and sang every single word of Bruno Mars "Just the Way You Are" to me quietly. I knew then my heart was falling fast, but a couple hours later things were totally solidified.

My best friend had been grounded but her mom let her come to the dance as long as she came and left with me. The guy she was supposed to be "going with" got kicked out at the door by the principal for showing up smelling like pot. She got mad and called a boy that went to another school, and left with him. She sent me a text and told me that she would meet us at Denny's for milkshakes after. I was SO mad at her, but tried not to let it damper the great time I was having. After the dance in the car on the way to Denny's DH and I danced and sang at the top of our lungs and had such a great time; we were finally getting comfortable with each other. We met up with another couple, and my best friend and the guy, enjoyed our milkshakes, and when it came time to leave my best friend told me that she would meet me at my house (where she was supposed to be staying for the night). I was irritated, but let her go. She and the boy left about 10 minutes before us. I was driving DH back to his house and we were singing and dancing and acting a fool in the car and having such a good time when my phone rang. He answered it on speaker for me and it was my best friend sobbing hysterically. After some 'activities', the guy left her stranded in the parking lot at the Denny's in her *very* short strapless dress and high heels with no sweater. It was January and like 25 degrees out. I turned the car around to go get her, and the entire way back to DHs house he and I lectured that girl like we were her parents. I KNEW I loved him in that moment. The fact that he was just as concerned for her as I was, this girl he barely knew, I knew his heart was good. We had our first kiss in his drive way before he got out of my car that night. My best friend was in the back seat and got to see the whole thing. 9 years later she was the Maid of Honor in our wedding

View Quoted Comment Omg tears!