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Just Said Yes September 2014

Filling out address envelopes at reception

Nicole, on March 13, 2014 at 1:29 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 24

Is it ok to have my guests put their name and address on envelopes or index cards at my reception and then place them in my card box? I am having a guest book personally made and its not meant for addresses.

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Latest activity by CM, on September 16, 2023 at 10:07 AM
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    VIP August 2014
    Anonymous ·
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    No. I wouldn't do it. They took the effort to come your wedding and give you a gift you should spend the time to fill out the envelope for their thank you card.

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  • LillyBride
    VIP May 2014
    LillyBride ·
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    Huh? Why would you need them to write their addresses? Don't you already have their addresses from sending out invites?

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  • Kate
    Master December 2013
    Kate ·
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    What? no. don't do this. why would you even need to?

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  • Becky
    Super September 2014
    Becky ·
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    If you want their names on cards instead of in a traditional guest book, maybe you could have a "guest book" table with the cards & a seperate basket. I did this at my first wedding.

    Please don't have them fill out envelopes for thank you notes, which is, I think what PPs are having aversions toSmiley smile

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  • MnDex
    VIP October 2014
    MnDex ·
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    IMO, this is OK to do for a shower, but not at your wedding reception. As LillyBride pointed out, you should already have their addresses as part of your invite list. Your thank yous need to be written by you, addresses and all.

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  • Allyson
    Master May 2014
    Allyson ·
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    I went to a bridal shower where the host had us write our name and address on the envelopes for the thank you cards. I was annoyed at the time and didn't feel as appreciated when I got the card in the mail. I'd rather receive a thank you card with an address label then my own handwriting.

    Agree with Kate- if they're writing them on index cards, is it because you don't have their address already? Didn't you send them invites?

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  • KristenMeowza
    Master October 2014
    KristenMeowza ·
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    Dare I say, that may come off as "lazy." Fill them out yourself.

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  • Kate
    Master December 2013
    Kate ·
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    But whyyyyyyy do you need addresses after you've sent invitations? that's my bigger question

    ETA: ^^^ sorry, MnDex i'm not okay with this at a shower either. Unless for some reason you don't have great aunt bertha's address and you happen to see her at the shower. I think it would be okay to just mention that you need her address for the invitation, but don't set up a station for it or something

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  • MissMadeline
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    MissMadeline ·
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    I don't understand why would need their addresses if you already have them. Did you send out invitations by email or something?

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  • Kimberly
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    Kimberly ·
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    I agree with others, don't do it. I'm assuming your talking about using them for thank you cards?

    I wouldn't like this if I were a guest.

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    Savvy October 2014
    Ariana ·
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    I am pretty relaxed about most things, but I do think many people will think this comes off as lazy, and you should already have their addresses. But if you do decide to do this have a guest book table and beside the guest book have a box with cards or envelopes with a sign that is catchy and fun asking for addresses so people don't get offended.

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  • MnDex
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    MnDex ·
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    @Kate...as I stated in my response...In My Opinion...and opinions are like a**holes...everyone's got one...LOL ;-)

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    Master July 2014
    csquid ·
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    I've never seen it done before and I know this has been brought up here before. Mostly, people are against it. To me, it does seem lazy and strange.

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  • nicolebenoit
    Devoted July 2015
    nicolebenoit ·
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    I saw this idea on Pinterest.... I find it looks silly if you can't take the time to fill out their address.

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  • Sarah and Lindsey
    Devoted May 2015
    Sarah and Lindsey ·
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    I don't think I would care about writing it on a notecard or something, but I would be weirded out by getting a card with my own handwriting. You should already have everyone's addresses from the invites anyway.

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  • Rachey
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    Rachey ·
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    No way I'd do that. I think it's tacky and kinda rude to be honest. That's what you do at the dentist office for an appointment reminder card. Smiley smile

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  • Heather A
    Master September 2014
    Heather A ·
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    In addition to what the oter girls have said....even if your guest book wasn't personally made....ADDRESSES DO NOT GO IN A GUEST BOOK.

    Guests should not be writing their address on your wedding day.

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  • Celia Milton
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    Totally no

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  • Bree
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    Bree ·
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    My MOH did this for my bridal shower. I hated it. It was more annoying to try & match up the cards to the envelopes than it would have been to just write them myself, and some of their writing was atrocious, I worried if the cards were even gonna make it to their destination. There were about 50 envelopes. I cant imagine sorting them with anymore than that. I prefer a spreadsheet and writing them myself. I really dont think you are saving yourself any work by doing that.

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  • ItsGoodToBeKing
    Master February 2014
    ItsGoodToBeKing ·
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    Why is this a "thing"?! This is the 2nd time I've seen this on here. How classless can ppl be?!?! Its NOT okay!!! Do not do this -.-

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