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Steph&Chris
Beginner August 2015

Filling in the RSVP Card Names

Steph&Chris, on April 23, 2015 at 3:56 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 18
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Hi everyone!

I have been driving myself crazy with the whole "and guest" thing. I am doing pocket folds for my invites so the 2 envelope system isn't an option. With one envelope, that means I should write "Ms. Jane Doe and Guest" on the addressed envelope. But... I HATE how that looks.

So I found the idea online that some brides pre-fill in the M_______________ line on their RSVP card. I thought that might be useful for the "and guest" invitations. On the line I could simply fill it in as "Ms. Jane Doe and___________" so that she can fill in the name of her guest. Or leave blank if there is none.

~What are your thoughts on pre-filling in names on the line?

~Would it be best to fill in names for ALL guests since some people apparently forget to fill in their name? -also aware of number system

~Fill in names just for people with guests so they know they can bring one?

~Just hope that people assume they can bring a guest and not fill any RSVP cards out?

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Latest activity by jane, on April 23, 2015 at 11:00 PM
  • Steph&Chris
    Beginner August 2015
    Steph&Chris ·
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    I need opinions! Please and thank you! Smiley smile

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  • BringOnMay!
    Super May 2015
    BringOnMay! ·
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    If I didn't know the spouse or guest's name I just wrote "and guest." They get the idea.

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  • Lori
    Master June 2015
    Lori ·
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    I don't think you can just assume that people will know to bring a guest. And I'd be worried with your RSVP option that people wouldn't know to fill in their guest's name or not realize that that means they get to bring a guest.

    Why don't you want to address it to "Jane Doe and Guest"?

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  • jane
    Expert March 2015
    jane ·
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    I used a belly band as my inner envelope. Like this:


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  • Dori L.
    VIP June 2015
    Dori L. ·
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    Same as BringonMay!...I just sent mine a few weeks ago and deadline is 5/29 so I don't have a ton but if I had help I would've pre-filled all names, but I did number the back. So many people don't know how to fill and return properly. Do what will save your sanity, LBVS!

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  • Venusian
    Devoted September 2015
    Venusian ·
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    I thought about filling in the guests name on the RSVP card too. But I wonder if not everyone invited could make it, would the invitee then cross out names??

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  • OGmelanie
    VIP July 2015
    OGmelanie ·
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    I put two lines on every card. If it was a single person I put their name on the top line and left the bottom one open for them to write their plus one on. Either people don't want to bring a plus one or they don't realize they can bring a guest. I wish I had put and "&" beside the second line. Now I have to find out for sure because I feel bad Smiley atonished

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  • FutureMrsWalton
    VIP August 2015
    FutureMrsWalton ·
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    I don't like the idea of filling in the person's name on their rsvp card. To me it seems a little tacky. But since you aren't doing an inner envelope, it might make sense!

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  • Blaine
    Expert August 2015
    Blaine ·
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    You could do the "_2_ seats have been reserved in your honour" line on your RSVPs, where you fill out the number invited. The single people would know they get a guest, and that way they could fill out the guest's name. If you pre-fill the line with "Guest", you won't know whose name to put on the seating chart/place card.

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  • M
    Master December 2014
    Melissa ·
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    I filled in the rsvp card because 1. I didn't want anyone sending it back without a name and 2. I didn't want anyone to try and add on a plus 1 if they weren't invited with one.

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  • Katherine
    Super May 2015
    Katherine ·
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    Instead of filling in the name line, maybe include a quick note saying they are more than welcome to bring a guest? That way you avoid writing "and guest" on the envelope and the RSVP name line too.

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  • Ashlee Green
    Ashlee Green ·
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    Normally as the bride you fill in the "M" line on the RSVP card and then you add a line for them to write in the other person's name with (guest) preceding the second line, if you're allowing them to bring a guest. Then for your outer/inner envelope you're addressing it to the person(s) that you actually sent it to. I have a lot of couples choosing to do RSVP postcards so that they can save on their budget with purchasing extra envelopes.

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  • FutureMrsWalton
    VIP August 2015
    FutureMrsWalton ·
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    @Serein_Invites: I've never received an invitation like that and I've never met anybody who did that.

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  • Charla
    Super March 2015
    Charla ·
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    My RSVPs were preprinted with the invited persons name and "guest______" if they were given a +1. We still had at least 5 people write in additional names. I think it helped but if you're looking for avoid people just adding their own +1 good luck.

    I've seen several ladies here try several techniques. All ending up with extra add ons

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  • Steph&Chris
    Beginner August 2015
    Steph&Chris ·
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    Thank you everyone!

    I'm not so much trying to prevent extra guests, as I am trying to make sure people know they can bring one...

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  • J
    VIP July 2015
    Jesse's Girl ·
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    The names of all of those invited will be on the inner envelope. I plan on numbering the back of each RSVP card and have it corresponding to their row in my Excel spreadsheet where I keep track of the guest list, so if anyone forgets to fill in a name I still know whose it is. We are having plated dinner options so hopefully they're smart enough to right a name next to their food choice (since it says "please indicate the meal choice for each guest"), so hopefully they're guest's name is down by the meal options. If they don't write down everyone's name by the meal choices or add extra guests, I'll contact them at that time.

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  • Steph&Chris
    Beginner August 2015
    Steph&Chris ·
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    @Jane -

    Where did you find belly bands that would fit around a pocket fold?? All the ones I've found are only for 5x7 invitations...

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  • jane
    Expert March 2015
    jane ·
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    Cards and pockets. That's where I bought my pockets too.

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