Filipino Brides? Traditional Ceremony...?

I do the cord/candle/veil surrounding the vows and rings, but I would talk to your officiant.

Hi Erlene!

I am Filipino and my husband is Italian, Irish and German. I was raised Catholic and he was raised in a household of both Protestant and Catholic (although I'm now Agnostic and he's an Atheist). We incorporated some aspects of Filipino wedding ceremony traditions but tweaked them to better suit what we wanted. We did the veil, cord and aras, in that order (we didn't do the candle). So after our officiant announced this part of the ceremony, he called the people involved in each process and then had him explain the significance of each part.

@christinanyc is it during or after the veil, cord and aras when they explain the meaning of each? I was wondering if we do the traditional ceremony, does our wedding need to be held in the church? Thanks

Hello we did the rings first then coins. Following that is flowers for Virgin Mary, candles, lastly cord and veil.

Steph, so our officiant let our guests know when it was time for the Filipino part of the ceremony. First, he explained it's a Filipino tradition. Then he said "I would like to call Ms. A and Mr. B for the veiling ceremony." As Ms. A and Mr. B put the veil on us, our officiant is explaining what it's for. Then he calls on the next people and he explains what that one is for... Also, we didn't get married at a church. My mom was not happy at all but whatever.

@ChristinaNYC LOL. Thanks for the info.

@GreeneBunny Lol!

Thank you guys so much! i heard back from my officiant and he suggested the following, for anyone still in planning mode

Entrance Hymn

Welcome, Greetings & Opening Prayer

First Reading

Responsorial Psalm - sung

Second Reading

Alleluia Verse -sung

Gospel

Homily

Exchange of Vows

Wedding Rings

Wedding Coins

Lighting of Unity Candle (Optional)

Wedding Veil

Wedding Cord

Prayer of the Faithful

Flower Offertory to Mary

Nuptial Blessing

Recessional Hymn

My FH is Filipino and he didn't want to incorporate any traditions in the wedding. I was very sad but his mom and I are working to change his mind.

Ours did it the same way as @ChristinaNYC.

@ErleneJ: We did it in the same order as yours but we didn't do the flower offertory to Mary and added the following after General Intercessions:

-Liturgy of the Eucharist: Presentation of the Gifts (Offertory), Eucharistic Prayer, "Holy, Holy, Holy", Invocation of the Holy Spirit, Memorial Acclamation, "Amen", The Lord's Prayer, Nuptial Blessing, Sign of Peace, Breaking of the Bread, "Lamb of God", Communion, Prayer after Communion

-Concluding Rites: Final Blessing

-Signing of the Marriage Register

-Recessional

Did anyone have their sponsors (for cord, veil, candle) wear dresses to match the bridesmaids? And what about the female Godparents’ attire? They will all be part of the entourage walking down the aisle. Is this too much to ask of them?? Thanks

View Quoted Comment Hi Jem - i did not ask any of our sponsors to match our bridesmaids. Traditionally, I have not seen this and I think it may be a little too much to ask of them in my opinion. These sponsors didn't take pictures with the entire bridal party, they were separate so they don't really need to coordinate... best of luck and congrats!!

View Quoted Comment My reasoning behind this is that I was a bridesmaid for a couple of the girls that will be our sponsors for the cord, veil, etc. so I was thinking it might be ok if I asked them to match. Do they march down the aisle before the bridesmaids?

My sponsors marched down before our actual wedding party.

We did grandparents, groom's parents, god parents (primary sponsors), followed by the veil and cord sponsors (secondary sponsors) then our bridal party (bridesmaids, groomsmen, ring bearer, flower girl, etc.) Even if you were in their wedding as a bridesmaid does not mean you have to have them match as sponsors, they may appreciate being able to wear whatever they want?

Thank you, that’s helpful. Did you provide bouquets or corsages for the women that marched or did you limit that to bridesmaids?

We gave all our women sponsors corsages and boutonnieres for the men. The bridesmaids had bouquets.

Any Filipino-American brides or brides to be a marrying a catholic Filipino but are choosing to have a non denominational ceremony? Does anyone know how to incorporate the traditional Filipino cord & veil tradition into the ceremony? We’re getting married outside of church & non denominational but would still love to incorporate this tradition to honor his parents & heritage! Do i still need to hire a Filipino officiant?

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I would suggest you talk to your officiant directly. Most may not mind incorporating these things if you ask them to. We had a catholic / Filipino priest so he was a pro at what needed to be done. I am not sure how it's done outside of the church, sorry! good luck.

Hello everyone! I’m getting married this October and started planning the layout of our ceremony for the wedding. I am Filipino and my fiancé is American and we are going to incorporate the Filipino traditions in our wedding. I don’t have a lot of family and friends here in the US and I was going to have my Bridesmaids be the secondary sponsors as well. Do they have to be different people? Thanks

View Quoted Comment Hi! I’m getting married in October too but next year. I’m Filipina while my FH is half Filipino. I’m also thinking how I can incorporate our traditions as they really don’t do the principal and secondary sponsors here. Also we are having a garden wedding. So I suggest pick his and your siblings as a secondary sponsor. I’m planning to have my brother and his wife for the cord sponsor and his sister and brother in law for the veil. Let me know how it goes. Happy preps!