Fighting with only a week to go!

It's just all the added stress, ya know ? It makes sense. Take a breather and do something together for a little bit that's unrelated to wedding talk and stuff.

I think it is normal due to the added stress, but I also think it's important that you get ahead of it. When I started to feel really stressed, I say down with FH and let him know how I was feeling and that it was really important to me that we aren't against one another right now. I let him know that when I start to get worked up I need him to bring me back to earth and remind me why we are doing this. After that it's been smooth sailing.

I think it’s somewhat normal with all the stress but you definitely need to talk about it with him ASAP. You need to support each other especially when things are stressful. Also try to take a break and do something fun together.

That's a really big wedding to do all by yourself in a backyard, so I'm sure the stress is higher than most. As PP said, deep breaths. Try to not sweat the small stuff. Is there anything you can give up? Example, you don't really need programs, or favors, maybe scale back on some of the decorations if you can. Good luck. You are in the home stretch and once it's done you will be able to move on and look forward. If you feel the communication issues may persist after the stress is over, then couples therapy never hurts, but I think the type of wedding you are having is a huge factor in adding stress these last few days.

I have been saying to FH that this has been the worst our relationship has been. It's all the added stress. Planning a wedding, he's working so much overtime so he's not home and when he is I am sure the last things he wants to do is any planning, if I ask him something about the wedding he bites my head off and it turns into a huge fight. We fought about the tuxes and has still been unresolved. I said we need time to just focus on us void of wedding talk. The stuff I need him to decide on or plan he wants no part of but then other stuff he makes the hugest fuss about. I think it's important to have healthy, calm communicating and if it's not then just drop it til it can be discussed calmly.

I told him after the wedding he really doesn't have to continue working himself to death because I never once said that's why I deem him of value but he seems to think he needs to provide provide provide to impress me and that's not how I see it. I'd rather see him and connect together and we take care of things around the house then him being off working.

It sounds like you two probably took on more than you could mentally handle. This is probably the most stress you have had to deal with has a couple, so you have never experienced fighting like this. I know you are only a week out, but I would try to find someone to help you and let you and your fiance take a break. Fighting like this is not healthy for your relationship and will make your wedding not as enjoyable as it should be.

That’s the joy of the honeymoon… All of the unnecessary wedding stress that’s been created is over. You’ll get to relax and enjoy the newlywed life.

My mom always said if a couple can make it through planning a wedding then they're pretty well off!

FH and I had a big final blowout because of this very thing this past weekend (3 weeks out). We're also doing a total DIY wedding (although for only 60 people) and we were both just so completely overwhelmed by everything that still needs to be done/decided on. We found ourselves bickering constantly about the tiniest, dumbest little details and both of us were just sick of it. It was making us miserable and it got to the point where we were almost dreading the day instead of looking forward to it. But what we came to was this: We're not adding anything new or changing anything unless it's absolutely necessary. Whatever has been decided on so far is what we're sticking with. Anything that hasn't been decided on yet is my call (that was his decision, not mine). And we're delegating whatever we possibly can to our family and friends who have volunteered to help out.

We just had to draw a strict line and say no more!

I’m a year and a half out and my FH and I already had a fight about the wedding planning xD (thankfully it was quickly and easily resolved) I think it’s pretty normal. I’ve always said, it’s not the fight that matters, it’s how you recover from the fight afterwards that’s really telling about the relationship. Fights are going to happen, but if you guys can come back together as a team and work through whatever started the fight (no matter the size) then you’re gonna be alright.

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Thank god. Some days I feel like I want to hit FH upside the head. I keep telling myself it'll pass!

Totally normal, especially doing so much on ur own.

It sounds like you're both really stressed out which definitely can cause unnecessary fights. Is there a pocket of time this week you could not be prepping for the wedding and just have a meal together?

Go on an all day date! You have to make time, you’re the love of his life and I’m assuming he’s yours? So take time to remember that. My fiancé and i just went on a beautiful little road trip to 17 mile drive and being alone out there with our puppy was amazing and we re-connected and bonded and I fell asleep the happiest person and woke up the happiest as well. We took that trip for almost the same reason, we were nonstop fighting, I was upset because although I love woth all my heart his family and friends ; we never have alone time and every activity or fun filled day was with someone else and every day we hang out it had to be with someone else we never had alone time and simply going out alone we stopped fighting and reconnected. We didn’t talk about our wedding except for the drive home but we mostly made the day about us and living in the moment with each other. I would suggest just a little one on one day with each other, it doesn’t necessarily have to be a trip like me but simply a picnic and movie at the park, drive in theatre with snacks and blankets, a lazy day where u turn your phones off or silence them and you binge watch each other’s fav shows. Just a little something to while with each other and enjoy each other’s company.