Anyone else fighting with family over wedding stuff? And how are you handling it? I’m stressed out and tired of my mother being so negative with a lot of my ideas and especially with her throwing it in my face that “she has a say because she’s paying for it.” While it’s nice that she’s helping us to pay for it, we don’t need her money and I’ve already paid all my deposits without asking her for money because I don’t want her negativity. Multiple times I’ve told her that this day really is all about me (and my fiancé of course) and that I’m doing what I want. At first I welcomed her advice but after her being negative with most of what I said I’ve stopped - she turns my excitement into stress. We are going to look at a bridal shower venue next weekend and before even hearing what I wanted for it she told me she didn’t like the venue and the theme and she actually made fun of it saying that she’s going to be embarrassed ... (an old country club with a Beauty and the Beast theme - she was the one who told me I needed a theme and is telling me to use Love is Sweet which I told her everyone uses and no). The fact that I’m going to look at this venue with her is giving me such anxiety. I really don’t want her opinions and want what I want. She also feels like because she is paying for the bridal shower she should have full control and I explained to her I’m giving her ideas because otherwise she will make it like her which I’m nothing like. I’m honestly to the point where if she gives me crap again telling me I can’t have what I want and holding her paying over me I’m about to tell her I’m paying for 100% of it and she does not have to come. I almost thought about not even having a bridal shower because the planning with her has been so stressful but I do want to celebrate with the ladies. My future MIL also mentioned that she never heard of this country club before which is around the corner from her house and that if it was good she would have heard of it .. I explained it’s an old military country club that was only open to the army base. Since the bar closed a few years ago, they opened it to the public. My dad worked at the base and used to always go to this country club for events and he loves it. I can’t be rude to my FMIL who I’m sure will also have a fit with the theme. She does not seem to like the idea that it’s old. How do I nicely tell my further MIL that this is what I want and this is what it’s going to be? Any advice is appreciated!
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