Fiance's brother's ex girlfriend as bridesmaid - HELP

Ask your bridesmaids 6-9 months before.

You still have time. I wouldn't even worry about this until the end of the year. Things can change.

Don't ask anyone until about 6-8 months before your wedding, you time. By that point it may not be as much of an issue, or your relationship with her could change.

Ok - what if her and I are still good friends at the end of the year? What would you suggest then?

I was the maid of honor in my cousin's ex girlfriends wedding. They dated for 7 years, it ended poorly (his fault) and her and I were still super close. She even invited his sister to the wedding also. I would think it could be a question to the family but since it's the brother's fault and if the girl doesn't mind the tension, why not I guess ?

Kayla - thank you! It's good to have an insider's view. She means a lot to me, but I also don't want to have too much tension. Who knows - maybe things will be more coridal by then.

Worry about it next fall.

It's your wedding! If your fiancée is okay with it then that's all that matters.

I understand that breakups are hard (some worse than others) but I think we need to remember that we are all adults and should be able to handle these things.

I went through a really bad breakup at the end of a five year relationship. Our best friends got married a few months later; I was a bridesmaid and he was a groomsmen. We were civil and there weren't any issues.

It's not as though they will have to be hand in hand or even talking all day, they may not even need to speak to each other at all. I think it should be fine.

What is the relationship between your BIL and his ex? Are they friends, do they see each other socially, are they ok together? Not exactly the same situation, but I was BM for the sister of one of my exes, he and I were both in the wedding and were actually paired together for the procession, but we were friendly and it wasn't awkward for either of us. I think it can work, but it totally depends on what their relationship is like closer to the date.

They could be back together by your wedding. Your FBIL might be married to someone else. You friend might be married to someone else.

You don't know this early what the dynamics are going to be. Don't stress over it till 6-9 months before hand and then ask your BP

One of my bridesmaids is my ex's sister. Not exactly the same but still dealing with a sensitive situation. You built a relationship with her and if it's close enough to share your special day, I say do it.