My fiancee is a good guy, let me start with that. He refuses to start planning the wedding until he has ALL the money we need. I think we need to start putting money down on venues, I need to get my dress etc.. We had a tentative date set for this October.
We needed a new mattress, I totally agree with that. The one we have is one i've had for almost 20 years, it was ripped, old, and just not comfortable. He decides on a break from work yesterday to get one ordered. I knew about it. Imagine my shock when he buys an ENTIRE bedroom set, bed, dressers etc. He spent nearly all the money we had saved for our wedding. He says we "needed" it. No, we didn't. A mattress yes, but I have dressers. I can't say much, because the money saved was from his income taxes since I can't work due to a disability. He PROMISED the income tax money would ALL go toward the wedding. We now only have about 1,000. I'm upset, i'm hurt, and yes i'm angry.
He "decided" it was my Valentine's gift. I didn't need a gift, I was fine with saving that money for the wedding. He could see i'm really upset and he says he's sorry i'm sad now. I have no idea when we'll get married now, I have no idea when I can even start to plan. I was able to let him know how upset I am, and he seems to get it. He did this before though, I have a loveseat, but he "decided" our Christmas gift was a new one with a center console. Don't get me wrong, I love it, but I think we should have saved the money. He's not an over-spender, he really isn't. I think he is trying to make us have a nice place to start our lives together, but how are we going to do that if we can't even have our wedding?
I just needed to vent before I scream...