Hello all, first time here. I’m actually the groom in this situation, and my girlfriend (not yet fiancé, though we’ve been talking about dresses, rings, and venues all year), she wants a Catholic wedding.
I’m fine with this, however, we haven’t been to church in years and I never made it through to confirmation. We are both baptized Catholic, and she’s done all the necessary sacraments and this means a lot to her.
It means so much to the point that she recognizes that I’m not fully into the religion and doesn’t want to have a church wedding if it means I’m not into it. Again, I have no problems doing the wedding at church, I just can’t lie to her nor myself and say I’m 100% on board with the Catholic faith, especially if we haven’t been attending for all the years we’ve been together.
I don’t want this to be where we draw the line, as we’ve been together for over 4 years now and living together for 3 of them. But if she won’t even talk to me to find a compromise, I’m not sure how we’re supposed to go all our lives together. And that’s knowing that most other issues we tend to resolve just fine, it’s just this one in particular that I’m not sure where to turn.
Tl;dr, she wants a Catholic wedding; I’m “fine” with that, but fine isn’t enough for her. She wants to know I’m fully committed to the faith and I’d be lying to both of us if I said I was.