Fiance thinking of re-enlisting - pros/cons?

My fiancé just got out after ten years. He is working on his second degree right now and he is in the reserves. I thought this was a great compromise but they’re already trying to deploy him again. He was deployed while we were dating, and it was hard but we could still text most days even though there was a huge time difference. It was ok because I knew he’d come home. Being broken up was harder because I thought he was gone forever. So I was ok. He is saying he misses the military full time and definitely misses his pay check so he may go back. I am nervous to be pregnant while he is deployed (hypothetically) but that is what I am basically agreeing to. I am also nervous to move around but I also agreed to give up my career and move across the country when we got engaged, so I have some practice at it now.

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Congrats on your wedding day being only a few months out! One of my main concerns is starting a family as well. We talked about kids and are both of the same page as trying not too long after we get married. He really wants to go back into the infantry which automatically makes me have my worries. I can tell how much he regrets not staying in and achieving all the goals he wanted and how much it's a part of him. We've just got a lot of thinking and discussing to do!

View Quoted Comment Thanks girl I am so happy to be at 95 days. It’s been a long engagement. I feel like we are similar to you and your fiancé. It’s definitely something to figure out. We agreed we’d wait until he finished his degree next year and then decide. He also said he could apply and then change his mind later .

My ex-husband was in the Navy when we met and retired after we split up. In our case it was not the military that broke us up, but it can be hard for a lot of families. I grew up around it so I had an idea of what I was in for. The biggest thing is moving to a place you don't know and may not have friends or family. Deployments are tough too, but I have to say while it's still no cake walk, it was more difficult in some ways back in the 90s. (Think no cell phones, no social media to connect with) But being in the Navy gave him to opportunity to let me know most of his locations and when we would be able to speak. That isn't always the case for other branches. The two things you will both need is patience and open communication. You have to be able to listen and to tell each other what is going on with you too. I wish you luck either way.