Fiance No Longer Wants To Get Married

Ummm is it he no longer wants to get married? Or he no longer wants to be in a relationship with you?

If he still wants to be with you, and you with him, then consider doing couples therapy. Also, regardless of what he wants, I recommend you discuss with him about paying you back 50% to 100% of all the money you spent on materials and booking vendors for the wedding.

Does he no longer want a wedding or is it he doesn't want to marry you or be in a relationship

I'm so sorry to hear this, I can't even imagine.

How have you yourself felt in the relationship recently?

I know every couple and their timelines are different, but I do find it odd that you were engaged for a significant amount of time before you had the green light to set a date and plan. Was that due to finances, job/family situations, etc., or was he just not ready?

Are you still together, or has this pretty much ended things?

I'm so sorry, love. This is indeed heartbreaking. I'll definitely be sending you good vibes.
Did he give you a reason as to why he no longer wants to get married?

View Quoted Comment Kind of trying to figure that out. He's still here and maybe hes trying to figure out what he really want,too.

View Quoted Comment Yes there were a few things but i said they were all things in our relationship we can work on. He tends to give up on amything when things get hard or complicated. And he said he just wasnt happy.

I’m so sorry to hear that. I definitely think couples counseling is a good idea.. I would urge him to be upfront and honest with you about why he’s questioning things, especially given he was the one who suggested to set a date and start planning. That’s extremely confusing. If he definitely decides he doesn’t want to continue I would absolutely have him pay back for everything you’ve spent.

View Quoted Comment I was 8 months pregnant when he proposed so we were wanting to focus on the bany first plus i was filing bankruptcy so money and finances were tied up on Sooo much that we were waiting to be more stable.

View Quoted Comment I know this is gut wrenching. You deserve someone who is excited to marry you!

Hi Melissa, I’m so sorry you are experiencing this. Of course only you know the full situation, but sounds like classic cold feet a lot of people experience. Wedding planning is a ton of work and stress. There are many people who don’t like being center of attention and worry they will embarrass themselves speaking, dancing, etc. at their wedding. It’s not you or the commitment of marriage, but the wedding itself.


Will say a prayer for you both that this bump gets resolved quickly for you and you emerge stronger together ❤️

I'm so very sorry. Sadly, it sounds like he might have proposed for the wrong reason (pregnancy) rather than actually wanting to get married. However, he has had plenty of time since then to decide if marriage is what he wants. You deserve to be with someone that is 100% sure about what he wants rather than stringing you along all of this time like it sounds like he has done.

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I am very sorry and this is a horrible thing to experience. This is a deep conversation you and he both need to have an ask him where his heart is. I get wedding planning can be stressful but it would be understandable if she said let's just go to the courthouse. This is a situation some soul searching where he wants the relationship to go. You have every right to be upset and I am going to pray that things go well for you both. Virtual hugs.

View Quoted Comment It sounds like a lot of stress and instability. Maybe he just needs a moment to breathe? It’s still hurtful but maybe counseling for him and both of you together, can give you both the tools you need to work together through some of life’s curveballs right now. Big hugs!!!

I think you guys should go to couples counseling

I would also recommend counseling for yourself. Not because you did something wrong, but because this is a lot and you may begin to internalize this as somehow being your fault. Do whatever you need to do to protect your heart and peace of mind during this time. I’ll be praying for you and sending virtual hugs your way.

View Quoted Comment Thank you.

I am so sorry you are going through this. My fiancé and I where having a traditional Catholic wedding last summer and we decided we would elope earlier in the year. The day before our four ceremony I get a text essay saying he no longer whats to get married blocks me from every social medial platform and blocks my phone. I was devastated!!! We had paid for our venue, ceremony my wedding gown 😭. Eventually I found out that an aunt (who’s like his mom) convinced him I was bad for him and forced him to walk away. Give your FH some time to be alone. It’s the hardest thing in the world not having communication with them but I promise after some time apart my fiancé realized that his family was full of it. Some guys are really weak minded and get easily manipulated by the family. With time he will realize what an amazing wife you will be and will regret ever saying that I promise. We’re here for you ❤️

View Quoted Comment I hope thats the case. Thank you.

Hi Melissa,

I am so sorry to hear this. I know this is heart-breaking. I pray you have a family member to embrace and comfort you. For one have you asked him why now? perhaps there are financial issues that he does not want to get into due to Covid-19... If he is open to discussing this matter, see if he/both of you be interested in counseling sessions. I pray you find peace either way.