Just looking for a bit of insight/advice here. My fiance is starting to second guess everyone he chose to be his groomsmen. Just as a bit of background, we both are more introverted people, in our late 20s/early 30s, so we don't have a huge friend group and the friends we do hang out with, we only see every few months. He recently started working his dream job as a tattoo artist and has gotten pretty close with some of his coworkers. He also asked one of his close friends if he would be his best man over text and the friend never responded (I swear this friend is having some sort of weird break down, so I don't think it's anything personal)... so that kind of put him in a funk about his friendships I think. When we started deciding if we wanted to have bridesmaids and groomsmen, he wasn't sure he even wanted to have groomsmen. Eventually, he decided to have 5 of his coworkers be his groomsmen. He was happy with it at first but lately he has been worrying that it's "weird" or "lame" to have his coworkers be his groomsmen and not having his other friends (of which he has like 3-4 really good friends from when he was younger). I told him it's not a big deal and no one really ends up caring down the road about who was in their wedding party when they got married, but he just feels like they aren't even excited and don't want to participate. I haven't been around at his work much so idk how much of that is actually true and how much is just him wishing people would get excited for him, but I'm not sure what to do at this point. I've told him we can add more friends if he is feeling weird about it but then he just says it's fine and that it doesn't matter. He's brought it up a handful of times now and I'm wondering if it would be better to just let him not have groomsmen and then I can do my own thing with my bridesmaids? I just don't want him to think about that on the wedding day cuz that's not what really matters obviously haha And I honestly think part of it is the fact that one of his oldest and best friends didn't even care about the wedding or being his best man.... and I don't feel there is really anything we can do about that, you know?
Anyways, I know this is a long rambling post, but I just wanted to see if anyone out there is experiencing anything similar or has any advice!
Thank you in advance for reading my novel! haha
