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Deirdre
Savvy January 2020

Fiance insists on Name tags at the reception

Deirdre, on September 9, 2019 at 8:35 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 36

Seriously, this is his ONLY request. His mother backs up this idea. I have expressed my distaste for this, in my opinion, ridiculous idea. We have discussed this rationally, and although I appreciate his concern, over not remembering all my mothers siblings and their families from out of state, he insists that is should be at least be an option. I insisted we have 4 months to play family flashcard sessions or match game, which I will probably still do. However, he still really wants this to allay his fear that he presumes other people will also have. I found some pretty floral patterns on Etsy that match our colors and print out on self stick paper. I will have the guests name printed in a nice script and will also use it as the place card at the table. Fortunately our guests are down to earth and pretty sure they won't be writing Dear Abby or be insulted by such a faux paus. I did run it by a few of my family members and they chuckled, shook their heads and said ok. Has anyone else done this before or am I the only one whose fiance has this bizarre request???

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Latest activity by Laura, on September 10, 2019 at 7:08 PM
  • Courtney
    Master December 2019
    Courtney ·
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    What is this a work conference? Maybe at a rehearsal dinner or engagement party, but not at the actual wedding lol.

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  • Deirdre
    Savvy January 2020
    Deirdre ·
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    I have told him this, trust me. Of all the things he decided to insist upon, this is it. SMH. Really, he is a great guy. As a problem solver, he thinks this is a perfectly reasonable way to identify people he does not know, ....yet.

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  • Future Mrs. Danger
    Expert November 2019
    Future Mrs. Danger ·
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    Why is it that when they finally have an idea, its one that makes us cringe lol. I am worried about not getting everyones name right....but no, we will not do that.
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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
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    I agree with PP, maybe use them at a rehearsal dinner but definitely not at the wedding. It’s tacky and I would express that to him.
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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
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    Maybe make a placecard that *could* be worn as a name tag (but probably won’t be...)

    hopefully this helps

    oh I have to know, does he want straight up lanyards with laminated names badge or just like stickers...or like pins like waitstaff and baristas have???
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  • Deirdre
    Savvy January 2020
    Deirdre ·
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    Yes, the ones on Etsy is a floral template that I will add my guest list and then will be printed on the thickest quality peel and stick card stock that I can find, that will be used primarily as the place card and then, if his mother starts peeling it off and slapping it onto her beaded dress, who am I to stop her? But there will be no overhead announcement identifying their alternate identity as a name tag. The only purpose I hope it will serve is to show my honey, that I know how to compromise Smiley winking


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  • Deirdre
    Savvy January 2020
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    Exactly, cringe worthy.

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  • Monique
    Master December 2019
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    It’s definitely an odd request. I like what the pp said. Maybe the duo placecard.
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  • Keri
    Dedicated October 2019
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    If it’s his only request it can’t hurt. It’s your day ( both of you) if it helps alleviate his stress. Who cares what other people think
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  • Paige L.
    Super September 2021
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    This is a great compromise and I wish you the best of luck with this! Of all the things for him to put his foot down about, why did it have to be name tags 😂
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  • Chrisse
    Just Said Yes August 2021
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    I understand name tags. Almost every wedding I’ve been to had a name tag as some kind of souvenir for the guests to take home. They also keep a sense of order if you’re having the food handed out to the tables rather than buffet style so everyone gets what they requested. Good luck to you!
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  • Bridget
    Devoted October 2019
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    If I was dress d up I wouldn’t want a pin or stickiness on my good clothes. Not to mention I’d be a bit insulted.
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  • Adree-Anna
    Dedicated November 2020
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    What about labeled cups? Like cups with the chalkboard sticker on them so they can write their name and carry it around with them

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  • Jessica
    Dedicated March 2025
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    That’s a great idea! Name tag souvenir. If adding a name tags is his only request. And that’s all it takes for him to be happy and comfortable at the wedding then why not? He’s agreed to all your wishes. Don’t be insensitive or embarrassed by it
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  • J
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    Never at a wedding. And never at any event where people wear fancy clothes. Why do you need to know who someone is before you speak to them? It is a social situation. Introduce yourself, and then they introduce themselves.
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  • M
    Beginner September 2021
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    If he doesn’t know someone’s name he can just fake remembering who they are and not use their name “hi! How are you? Thank you so much for coming!” No name needed. I literally do this all the time
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  • Sara
    Expert October 2020
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    Sorry this is weird.... So all ur guests names will be in ur pictures.. Weird. Use ur veto power on this one!
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  • Melissa
    VIP September 2019
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    Weird request. If I was a guest at your wedding I would not wear one. As for not knowing your family, won’t you be with him while speaking to them? Ex: hey uncle bob, how are you kinda deal, then he knows who they are. I have no idea who half of FH’s guests are so he’ll be taking the lead on those
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  • Selena
    Super September 2019
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    Note, venues, caterers and rental companies DO NOT like sticker name tags. If we used them we had to pay an additional fee to the caterer and the rental company.
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  • Selena
    Super September 2019
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    Also I just wanted to add, if either one of you can't recognize a person, should you be inviting them.... 🤷
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