Fiance has more friends/family coming

It doesn’t matter who has more guests. As long as the people who are there are special to you and FH that’s all that counts.

All that matters that day is marrying the love of your life. Everything else is no or details. You're not a failure love just have fun and enjoy this time with your man ❤

Everyone is there to support both of you. it’s not a contest about who has more guests- it’s about you marrying FH! Enjoy your time and know that while not everyone can make it- they’re still happy Forbes you!

For you!*

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I went through this as well with our bridal party situation. He has 9 GM and I have 4 BM (2 of which are his cousins). But then I realized that the people I care most about are up there with me and while I’m sad I have grown apart from some old friends, these are the people that are most important to me.

And as PPs said, it’s about both of you. I have grown to feel his friends are my friends as well and same with his family, so they are all BOTH your guests there to celebrate your love.

I'm sorry you feel hurt but you are definitely not a failure. Just get one of those pick a seat not a side signs and remember - his family is going to become your family too! Not everyone can afford to travel and I'm sure everyone realizes that and wouldn't even think twice about it.

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Yep. We invited just the WP, and aunts/uncles/first cousins. I have four aunts/uncles total, while H has more than four on each side so his guest list was much bigger than mine. It never bothered me- his family is just bigger than mine. Everyone is there to celebrate both of you.

I’m in the same boat as you because my fiancé has a HUGE family so don’t even worry about it, all that matters is you having the best time on your day together ! Try not to worry

I'm in the same boat I get it. The only thing for me is it's causing our wedding to be more expensive. As his parents are helping us with a lot of it I'm not complaining. They are afraid to start drama because they didn't invite certain people.

My FH has no close family and I have a huge family. I wanted to elope or have a very intimate wedding however he wanted me to share with my family. His friends are 15% of all guests and he is ok with that. My family will be his family and he is very greatful for that.

I am in the same boat- I grew up in Florida and moved to California after college. As you get older you don’t make as many new friends because you have less places to meet new people and build strong relationships after college. Just enjoy the people who are there and remember those are all your people now too celebrating both of you! Not just him anymore. I have 28 guests and my FH has the other 100 guests (keep in mind these are our final numbers). Oh well!!

I did not have any family at my wedding, while DH did. But I had 3 BMs and DH had just his brother as a best man. We had a small guest list of 40, the majority of them my friends. It really didn't matter. No one cares, and in fact, the one consistent compliment I hear from my guests was how friendly everyone was and that it was a very intimate, relaxing group.

We are having 50 guests. 8 of them are mine. This is not a competition, which means you can't be a failure. Everyone there is there to support both of you.

Seriously? Why would you feel like a failure because he has a bigger family, or because people who live 5 states away are less likely to show up than people who live local?

Don’t feel like a failure! But it’s important to remember that the guest list has to be something you’re both on the same page with. Are you OK with the extra friends coming? If not, that needs a different conversation. People have families of all different sizes, it doesn’t mean anyone has any less love surrounding them on that day! I didn’t realize how many emotions I had around creating the guest list. I think it’s easily the hardest part of planning so far

We had the budget to have as large of a guest list as we wanted. I invited every single aunt, uncle, cousin, cousins' SOs and kids, etc., because I have a big family and that's how we roll (seriously, everyone is invited to every wedding, it's about 100 people). H invited a couple of aunts and uncles he is close to, and no cousins since he isn't close to any of them. It's not a competition, and you shouldn't punish your SO or be frustrated with them for having a bigger group of family and friends who are excited to welcome you into the fold! These are YOUR people now. Embrace the love coming at you from so many directions! Also don't feel like a failure - if these people weren't excited for YOU they wouldn't be there! Just because they knew your FI first doesn't mean they aren't super excited to celebrate YOU!

We will for sure be having 80 guest a whole five of those guest are my family the rest are his. We may have an additional 20 guest which will all be his family. And by the time the reception takes place they will be my family as well so while biologically I will have 5 family members come in reality the guest will all be OUR family.

I’m in the opposite situation and my FH feels similarly. We are having a small wedding partially because of this—he only wanted his immediate fam (3) originally, and now he’s up to 5 guests. I have 12 or so. And that was me majorly cutting back. If I had everyone I originally intended with a big wedding it would have been 60 or more on my side. I keep telling him we are uniting and they are coming to see us BOTH. Especially in our small wedding situation because they now are all our mutual friends.

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What if they're not special to me? what if they've never been supportive and only ever treated me like an accessory to him?

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But what if they're not MY people? they've made it clear that i will never be one of them and I don't want people who treat me like crap at my wedding. regardless of how well they treat my FH