Hey, so my fiancé is in a bit of a dilemma. He realized 13 months into our engagement that he would actually like to have one of his friends as a groomsmen and wants to ask him to be one. I told him it may not be perceived well because we already sent out save the dates and this person could have seen the website and who was selected as groomsmen. (There’s a good chance he didn’t. No one seems to have gone on it yet unfortunately) however two of our friends who are also friends of the guy my fh is considering have seen the website and will know he wasn’t originally selected. I think my fh should just leave the situation alone and have who he currently has because he could potentially hurt our friends feelings. My fh doesn’t think he’d mind. I just can’t see anyone wanting to be selected to be in the wedding party as an after thought.
Some backstory: my fh took 9 months before selecting his groomsmen. Because he doesn’t have many deep friendships this part of planning was rather depressing and hard for him and caused him to be in his head a lot of the time, thoroughly examining each friendship. He just didn’t know who his real friends were. And it took his 13 months to see that the guy he didn’t chose is actually very supportive and excited for us to get married. He was also one of the people who helped get us together.
Thoughts?
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