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Fiancé grandma won't come.

Kristen, on October 11, 2016 at 1:03 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

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Our wedding is in my home town because I've always wanted to get married in my home church. My fiancé'S grandma refuses to come to the wedding unless we move it somewhere closer to her. She can drive and has no medical issues that would prevent her from coming. It's not crazy far either. Less than an hour away. Everything is already booked and paid for but she still refuses to show up. He is disappointed that she won't come but says he knows how she is and isn't worried about it. Obviously I can't just move everything now especially since it's been paid for and arrangements have been maid. But does anyone have any suggestions on how to get her to still come? We'd both like her to be there but moving it all is simply not an option.

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Latest activity by Selena, on October 11, 2016 at 2:48 AM

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RealLindseyO · on October 11, 2016 at 1:04 AM
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If she doesn't want to come then there's nothing you can do to make her. Closer to the date she may have a change of heart about it.
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K.M. · on October 11, 2016 at 1:07 AM
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She's an adult. If she doesn't want to come than don't make her. Let her decide for herself.
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Kristen · on October 11, 2016 at 1:07 AM
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I kind of think she'll change her mind but I just can't imagine refusing to go to a grandchilds wedding. Maybe I was raised differently but I know none of my grandparents would even hesitate to go to anyone of their grand kids wedding. We are here because of them.
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TealWedding · on October 11, 2016 at 1:12 AM
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She is going to be a part of your new family but at this point I would just say to stay out of it. Sounds like some whacko crazy family shiz that has absolutely nothing to do with you. Your fiance's family will figure it out, if I were you I'd be annoyed but wouldn't worry about it.
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Holly · on October 11, 2016 at 1:21 AM
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Don't worry about it. She's trying to manipulate you, so don't fall for it. Have FH tell her he's sorry she won't make it and let that be the end of the discussion. Eventually, she'll realize you aren't budging and will either change her mind or not - either way, it's not your problem.
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h · on October 11, 2016 at 2:09 AM
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Does your fiance have any aunt or uncles that lives close to her that would be willing to drive her?
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Maggy · on October 11, 2016 at 2:11 AM
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I'm sure it's not really about you, so try not to let it bother you. FH doesn't think most of his family will come either, but I have to remember it's not because of anything I've done. Try to be happy with the family who is there to love and support you!
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Angie · on October 11, 2016 at 2:13 AM
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Just leave it alone I guess. If she won't budge then neither should you. After all it is YOUR wedding, not hers
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Selena · on October 11, 2016 at 2:48 AM
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I agree with what other people have said. You can't force her to come and neither should you have to. It will be upsetting if she doesn't come, but that will be her decision. She may change her mind, but even if she doesn't, you should still both enjoy your wedding.
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