Fiancé family

Have they already blatantly said they won't respect that rule? If it's an issue of the venue, tell his family that they will be kicked out by the venue. You can't uninvite them because that would hurt your FH most likely but I would reinforce that you aren't joking around or overreacting. Especially if you are in a state that it is illegal, that could cause more problems on your wedding day than just disrespect. Sorry you are going through this!

I think not inviting them is overdramatic. Instead of making a post about it, why not just have your FH have an actual conversation with his family? If he’s usually participating in smoking with them, they probably think he doesn’t care if it happens at your wedding. Also, not inviting them isn’t up to you. It’s up to your FH since they’re his family.

View Quoted Comment It’s legal in Michigan and I honestly don’t have a problem with anyone smoking just not during the Ceremony or reception. It is extremely rude to my family and anyone else that doesn’t condone it.

View Quoted Comment He’s told them over and over again but they just act like they don’t care. So that’s why I took it in my hands, at this point I don’t care if it is his family. This is my wedding also and I will not be disrespected! (Sorry for the little rant I’m just super annoyed)

View Quoted Comment Is he ok if they completely cut him out of their lives if they aren’t invited though? You have to think long term. Just because you don’t care that it’s his family doesn’t mean he doesn’t care.

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Definitely have your FH talk to his family. His family should respect your rules especially on your big day.

I mean what does your fiance think? You've mentioned yourself a lot here but not much of him.
Does he not want them there either?
It's legal over here in MA and I'm having a similar problem, but I've been telling them the venue doesn't allow smoking peroid. I find when I kept pushing it people kept saying they'd smoke to get a reaction out of me 🙄
I'd have fiance tell them if they do it they can't come back inside and anyone caught smoking will be kicked out, if he shares your concerns.

Basically what I’m trying to say is my FH is to nice and they won’t take him serious so I AM going to say something. I tried to let him deal with it but now they have irritated me to the core. And yes we have discussed cutting some of his family out if they don’t listen 🤷🏽‍♀️ I shouldn't have to tell grown people how to act at a event. If this was one of their weddings and they did not want us doing something by all means I am going to respect the bride and groom! My FH didn’t start going around his family until about 10 years ago so he doesn’t to much care for a lot of them but his mom & siblings

I don’t think it’s up to you who in his family is invited. Let him handle it.

View Quoted Comment It’s our wedding so it’s up to us. His family has no respect for neither of us and I won’t be disrespected. He’s talked to them about it but they think he’s just joking around. I would be wrong to wait until our wedding day to say something then I’ll be the one irritated all day!!

I think it's more than fair of you to ask that it be a smoke free wedding, possibly even having a sign or two up somewhere, but I don't think it's up to you to uninvite his family members.

View Quoted Comment If only you knew how rude and disrespectful his family is 🤦🏾‍♀️ Makes me not want to have a wedding

It sounds like he doesn't have a good relationship with his family in the first place and that might be part of the problem. If you both have talked it over and he's okay with not inviting them then by all means take that route and don't even bother to invite them.

I would just make the statement which I'm sure is obviously enforced by the venue. If they sneak out to their cars during the reception, you probably wont even know. There are so many more important things to focus on and it wont end well if you try to micromanage it. I have the same issue with my own family. It's not worth the stress. Make the statement and then forget it. Stoners aren't going to change much.

If he’s ok with it then uninvite them or let him uninvite them but it might not go over well with the rest of the family.

I think it's ok to just say it's smoke free and I'm sure the venue would reiterate it

It's your wedding and if you and your fiancee don't want it they should respect that. I wouldn't not invite them though, that would cause drama you don't need. Maybe talk to your venue and find out their policy and if they don't allow it you have that to back you up

You cannot NOT invite the GROOMS FAMILY!
I grt that you are anti marijuana but......

Let me ask this: 1) If marijuana was legal, like cigarettes, would it be an issue?
2) Could you have a spot that they could smoke and you ignore it?
3) Can FH refrain from it that night? And if not, you do get this is NOT gonna go away right?
I’m sorry to sound harsh, I was like you until I took a bite of brownie for nausea, that was causing me to go to er/throw up blood, and it helped by making the nausea go 100%— not the high just severe nausea relief!

But, I don’t think you can not invite his family..... I’m sorry.

View Quoted Comment This!!!!!!!!

I would just say the venue itself enforces no smoking on the premises (maybe besides cigarettes in the designated area) even if it is legal in Michigan. There has to be establishments that don't condone it still. You can't not invite them but maybe someone at your venue (a DOC) could reinforce the no weed on the premises! Like someone else said, if they go to their car you can't help that much.