Fiancé doesn’t have many friends to be groomsmen

Maybe you can reach out to them and ask them or if he has any siblings if they were planning an event for him or a surprise so that at least you would know when it’s happening to put your mind at ease. In the current climate a lot of people have been laid of so a bachelor party may be the furthest things from their minds right now.

Your wedding is 5 months away and we’re in the middle of a global pandemic. No one is focused on planning parties right now. Even under normal circumstances, bach parties really don’t need to be discussed until 2-3 months out at the earliest. They still have plenty of time to step up.

Who’s his best man? He’s the one that should be organizing that.


Also, agree with Caytlyn— I think given the current situation in the world, most people are a bit preoccupied with job loss and figuring out how to feed their families right now.

View Quoted Comment I’m aware we’re in the middle of a pandemic, as we had to move our wedding to next year already. I was just asking because even before the pandemic really took force his groomsmen said they didn’t want to help plan. There’s nothing wrong with throwing a question out there. Thanks anyways.

I know some people feel very strongly about wedding etiquette, but I disagree with a lot of it. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with him sending a text to his guys seeing if they have interest in a bachelor party and him taking the lead on planning if need be. They don’t have to do anything crazy, maybe a just a guys night out or a Saturday with an afternoon golfing or something. You could maybe reach out to a brother or cousin if he has one and see if they would be willing to help too.


As for people telling you not to plan things because of a pandemic, I think they need to realize that a lot of us are still trying to stay positive about our fall/winter weddings and that includes thinking about things like this and planning ahead and being able to ask questions in relation to that without having the pandemic reminder.

I don't think there's anything wrong with if he wanted to reach out and kind of plan his own. That's sort of what my fiance did though he does have a close circle of friends. They're just being super low key and having a guy's weekend at a cabin.

My fiance had a similar issue when his best friend decided to disappear from his life and their group of friends followed along. I was planning on having a matron of honor and three bridesmaids but ultimately just decided on having my sister as the matron. I didn't want him to feel uncomfortable and was never really into the bridal party thing. We did say that if his friends didn't come around in time before the wedding, we would plan a group gettogether with our mutual friends which are mostly couples so we still had a celebration before the wedding. Ironically some of his friends have come around about now but we are sticking to our decision and our wedding is postponed anyway. I think if this is important to your fiance, he can initiate or maybe you can find another way to celebrate with him so he still has something to look forward to too.

I'm sorry to hear this. Does he have close co-workers or brothers maybe just a bowling, bar night could be set up no overnight trips or anything. It sucks but if he doesn't have close friends who does he normally hangout with?

I'm kind of the opposite. I have one bridesmaid and my fiance has four groomsmen. My MOH doesn't know any of my other friends (she's a close friend from childhood, whereas most of my other friends are from adult chapters in my life) so she was never going to plan any parties for me because I didn't have other bridesmaids to help connect her with my friend group and she doesn't know any of my other friends. My mom and MOH both live where I grew up, and my close girlfriends aren't local, so I've done a lot of my bridal stuff solo, and it's been kind of sad. I was a bit bummed about not having a bachelorette (before Covid-19 happened and then our entire wedding was/is in jeopardy).

I don't know what to tell your FH, but he can honestly do whatever he wants with whomever he wants. Typically the best man plans a bachelor party, but there is no reason why other friends couldn't even if they are co-workers or more casual friends. Sometimes the act of going through an experience together helps form new bonds, and I'd say if there are people your FH enjoys and is friendly with, even if he's not super close, you or him could reach out and see if they want to go have a guy's night. It doesn't need to be a big affair planned in advance, it could be as simple as gathering a group up at a bar to have drinks and celebrate your FH getting married! Originally the wives of a couple of the groomsmen were going to take me out to dinner/drinks during my FH's bachelor party weekend (which was canceled/postponed) because why not? It wouldn't have been the same as having my very own bachelorette with hand-picked friends, but still would have been fun and meaningful.