Fiance doesnt have a best man...

Why not just have bridesmaids and groomsmen? We’re not having a MOH or best man and it’s worked out fine for us.

View Quoted Comment In retrospect I would have done this but I already asked my maid of honor months ago :/

I don’t see how there’s any more pressure to have a best man than there is to have a maid of honor. Neither is necessary and there’s nothing to be embarrassed about. He can have no best man, two best men, his dad as best man, whatever he wants.

Having 8 groomsman is a good amount. So it’s interesting to have THAT many guys that he’s close enough to have them stand next to him... but he can select one as a best man (it’s just a title, so just choose a guy). But also, a best man or MOH isn’t even necessary. So he need not feel bad. Heck, I didn’t know there were pressures to have certain titles in your BP. We’re not having a bridal party at all and I feel no pressure.

I suppose the "pressure" I'm referring to comes a lot from family, and even some of his friends- hes been asked many times about who his best man will be and been told he needs to figure that out. I've told him he doesnt need one and he feels embarrassed with that option.
It's also a lot in media/TV shows, lots of stuff about guy friends fighting over who is the best man.

View Quoted Comment If it helps at all: I am having 1 person in my party (a MOH) and my FH is having zero, no best man or groomsmen. So, it isn't unheard of. Perhaps assure him that it isn't a big deal and if people ask, offer him something helpful to say like: "all 8 of my friends are so great, I couldn't pick just one!" But personally I'd tell people to mind their business and that no, it isn't necessary; the BM generally does nothing but holds the rings and guess what? I have these amazing things called pockets. 💁‍♀️ lol. Hopefully he decides what he wants to do and can begin to feel better! Best of luck to you guys!

I don’t think he should be embarrassed, he can do whatever he wants! But I think I’ve been to more weddings where the grooms dad is his best man than a friend of the grooms, I wouldn’t think twice if his dad was his best man

We decided to not have a wedding party all together. Most of our friends are married with children and being in a wedding party is too much responsibility for them.

There is no reason for him to be embarrassed. He has 8 groomsmen which is a lot. My brother had our father as his best man and no one thought it was weird or anything. If he wants his dad to be his best man than I say for it.

I think that you answered your own question! If he is super close with his dad who cares how it looks! I have been to weddings where the groom has had their dad as the best man and I am in one in the fall that the groom is having is 5 year old son as the best man! I think that if having his dad would help him feel better about this than go for it! I actually think people would find it rather sweet as I am sure guests know they are close.

We are not having a typical bridal party but my FH chose his dad to be his best man and I am having my cousin to be my MOH. They are both honorary titles as they are not standing with us or have any duties but we wanted to make sure they were given special treatment seeing as they're both very special to us.

Thanks for the responses guys. I think I'm gonna pitch it to him to have his dad as his best man, I'm so glad to hear it's becoming semi-normal.

My fiance has 2 brothers, he DID (long story haha) have them both as the 2 best men. If he wants his dad I think that is a great idea! Or if he wanted 2, It is your wedding and I don't think anyone would think it is weird!

In my circle we all have big families so most of the weddings I have been to recently have had more then 1 best man

My honey has no best man. Just my sisters hubby will stand up with us as we did for them. No biggie =). Just tell him to name anyone of the 8 as his best man for conversation sake. LOL

My fiance asked his dad to be a co-best man with his best friend and while no one has said anything about it being / looking weird thusfar, we wouldn't care if they did! If it makes him happy, he should do it. My FH is super close with my dad and invited him to his "bachelor party." because he isn't a get drunk and get strippers kind of a guy. They're going to a car show and staying one night at the beach lol. Do things YOUR way always

My FH is not CHOOSING a best man, and instead is calling all 8 or 9 (maybe even 10, if he asks the last possible one) of them his best men. He has a thing about not picking favorites among his friends. Having his dad be his best man would be a great idea! A LOT of people do that, actually. My cousin had his dad as his best man and he was absolutely honored (and in tears- only time I saw my uncle cry) to be up there with him. It's a pretty big honor to be up there, and if you both think that his dad would be a great choice, then I'd say go for it.

He can have a Best Woman. I'm sure you may have asked his sisters to be your bridesmaids already, but maybe one of them can be his Best Woman?

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-ideas/best-woman

One of my best friends is a guy. My FH didn't want him as a groomsman, but I wanted him in the wedding party, so I made him a bridesman. He's the only bridesmaid who got to bring a date to the bachelorette party! HAHA! (His girlfriend is also a friend of mine.) The Gmen will be wearing charcoal tuxedos with sky blue vests and ties to match the bridesmaids, while my Bman is going to wear a charcoal tux with a charcoal vest and tie. (FH picked this out.)

My FH is also struggling to choose a best man because he is not super close to any of his friends (they are all pretty new friends) and his brothers aren't reliable enough to have as best man. I don't think its super necessary if your FH doesn't feel strongly about having one specific person! You'll just have to consider how it affects your processional, but you can just choose one guy to walk with your MOH or have your party members walk alone instead of in pairs. If he wants to have his dad take on best man duties, then he should do what makes him happy!

This is so normal, and so okay, that there is a Paul Rudd movie about it!

It's totally okay, eveyone's friendships work differently, he'll just need to have someone who can sign as a witness. That person doesn't even need to be in the wedding party.

I think it is perfectly acceptable, honorable even, to ask your dad to be your best man.