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Fiancé brother's girlfriend

Brittney, on October 30, 2018 at 3:07 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 11
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I am having some trouble with my fiancé’s brothers girlfriend. She is causing trouble and being jealous by saying things that were not true about how our engagement has come about. Now his parents are mad at us for standing our ground and defending ourselves. Not to meantion I have been with my fiancé for 7 years. We made it clear we do not want her at the wedding but his family is not listening to our feelings. My family has made it clear they do not want her there due to what she did. Any advice out there. I don’t want this to affect us or take the enjoyment out of the engagement. Because we are struggling with this.

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Latest activity by Shana, on November 1, 2018 at 9:19 AM
  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    I don’t think it’s fair to say that she can’t be there. She’s your brother in laws significant other. You will be so busy during the wedding and won’t have to interact with her. Let it go and try to move forward.
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  • nichole
    Dedicated July 2019
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    Brittney at the end of the day it is you and your FH wedding, so you can choose who you do not want at your wedding it's your day. You can not let everyone tell you what to do when it comes to your wedding....Your wedding day should be filled with love and happiness and should be no drama...so I say if you feel she is going to be nothing but drama at your wedding then do not invite her you do not need anyone trying to ruin your day.

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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
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    If this is someone who has actively wronged you and your FH then I do not think you should invite her. Your wedding is about celebrating the two of you, and your love. People who have wronged you and who do not support you have no place there, regardless of who they are.
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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
    LB ·
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    Can you elaborate? Unless she slept with your FH or attacked you, I can't think of many reasons to not invite your FBIL's SO. It would be purposely divisive and, IMO, would only cause you more of a headache (which it seems, it already has).

    Also, people above saying you get to choose who is invited is all well and good, but if your FH's family contributing to the wedding? Because if so, they get a say.

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  • c
    Super May 2019
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    There are quite a few people on FH's side I would really love to not invite because of their pettiness and all around cruel behavior, but we plan to invite them still and just focus on the fact that it will be our day and that we are surrounded by people who love us. I also plan on being busy as heck so I wouldn't spend too much time or energy focusing on the negative people.

    I would invite her and just keep your focus on you and your husband, not her.

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  • Annie
    VIP October 2018
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    Honestly I wouldn't invite her if she's saying hurtful things. As someone who recently went through a somewhat similar situation you need to have your FH talk to his brother about this and cut her out now unless she apologizes. She needs to apologize and if she doesn't cut her out completely and don't invite her. Having drama with your future extended family is never fun and makes things awkward (trust me). You don't want toxic people at your wedding.

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  • Jen
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    I would probably just stop talking about who not invite to your wedding since it is almost 4 year away. Who knows, by that time the girlfriend could be long gone :-). Certainly if she's still in the picture, I wouldn't invite anyone I didn't want there - I'm just saying you have a long engagement so don't start now with the stress of the guest list!

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    Is your wedding in 2022? Or is that not right on your profile? If it is, I wouldn't even worry about who is or isn't invited that far in advance.

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  • M
    Super November 2019
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    Screw her. She's not paying for your wedding, so she doesnt need to be there. If your fiance's family isnt paying for the wedding, they dont get a say either. It's your and your fiance's day to celebrate your love and commitment to each other. Dont let someone with ill intentions ruin it.
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  • MIWM
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    I personally would not allow that type of negativity to bother you. This is supposed to be a joyous time. It's your day!

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  • Shana
    Dedicated October 2019
    Shana ·
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    It's your wedding. You get the final say in who gets to come or not. You shouldn't have to put up with that negativity and I would make that clear.
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