I was recently asked to be a matron of honor in a friend's wedding set for next summer. This is my 7th time I've been asked to be in a wedding and this is the 5th time I've been asked while I've been with FI. My FI has never been asked to be a groomsman or best man in weddings. He feels defective in a sense (his words) because no one has ever asked him. He admitted he feels envious that I have friends and relative who value me enough to include me their in milestone events while none of his friends or relatives don't value him (his words) to include them in their milestone events.
The wedding that I will be a MOH next summer while be held in a neighboring state which is 5 hour drive away. My FI has said he doesn't want to go because it would just be too painful for him because he feels none of his friends or relatives value him enough to include them on their big days. He does admit that his feelings are selfish, but at the same time he feels pain because he realizes that he's not any of his friends' or relatives' favorite friend, cousin, nephew, etc I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to help him deal with this. I know he probably sounds weird to you all, but I think he's just hurting because he's never got to experience the groom's party while many of his friends and relatives have. I know some people will say that being in a wedding party sucks, but I think the issue my FI is facing is not having anyone to ever include him in major things. Before anyone suggests this, yes I've recommended counseling, but he says that it would be too embarrassing for him.