Fh’s family involvement so far

My FH's family is very involved. His sister is a bridesmaid, I send his mom pictures and ideas all the time. They threw our engagement party. My family is incredibly small, and I don't have a good relationship with my parents, so I am thrilled they are so open and willing to help.

Same! We didn’t tell anyone right away when we got engaged because I didn’t have my ring yet. So one day at FH dads house his dad was joking around and said “When is the wedding?” So FH answered “August 31”. Once they realized we were serious they were super excited and talked about the food and a few cultural things (FH’s family is from Guatemala). Then it seems like after the initial excitement wore off, they had no input. They haven’t asked about planning. We hand delivered the invitations to his family members houses and haven’t heard a thing. No RSVP’s have come in from his side (which I think is cultural) bc typically weddings are for the whole community and people just show up. For that reason FH gave out few invitations. So I’m stressing out thinking that no one from his side will be there or that his parents have already secretly invited the whole neighborhood by word of mouth. I have no clue what to expect. They haven’t really communicated with FH or I about much.

We aren't close with my husband's mom and she wasn't going to be contributing financially so we did not include her in wedding planning at all. My husband's sister was a bridesmaid and helped a lot though especially with the bridal shower.

Honestly, don't let it bother you that your fiance's family isn't involved. Most brides have TERRIBLE wedding planning experiences when the families are overly involved and the wedding become more of what the parent's want than the bride and groom.

My FMIL asks how's wedding planning going and she came dress shopping with me but we never really get into specifics. She seems interested when I respond and his two brothers are his best men. I'm sorry you're going through the silence, hopefully it'll get better as the wedding nears!

My FH's family has been somewhat involved. My FFIL asks about the wedding when we visit him and on the phone as well. I know that his extended family is excited especially his aunt, but they live in a different state so they aren't really involved. Then my FSIL seems to not care at all. I tried multiple times to include her in things: I tried to video chat her in during dress shopping, she ignored me then accused me of not reaching out. I screenshot that I tried to call her and video chat with her. I sent her a friend request on facebook which she has either ignored or deleted several months ago. I also have a feeling she won't be coming to my shower, which makes me sad but noting I can do about it.

I'm sorry this is happening to you! My FMIL is very involved! She lives 10 minutes from the venue, I live an hour and a half from the venue, and my mom is 2 1/2 hours from the venue so it's easiest for her to take care of something if she can. My mom and I have tried to include FMIL in anything she wants to be involved in because my mom has been the MOG twice and didn't get to be involved at all because my sister-in-laws didn't ask her to be. She's gone to 2 floral appointments with me since we're using the lady my FMIL always uses for flowers, and she went to my first dress alterations appointment!

My future in-laws haven't been involved much with planning, either. It's going to be okay though! I'd rather them be not involved than too involved. Try to think of it this way even if it's hard

My FH's family isn't involved at all, and I prefer it that way. They ask questions and we discuss it with them, but they are not helping with anything except the rehearsal dinner. They let us plan that and are paying for it, which is really sweet.

Not really. We have been together 16 years. for the last 14 they have been asking us when we would get married. Now that we are it is nothing unless I force them to talk about it which I don't. My FFIL will ask every once in a while about plans and my FMIL is excited to party.

When we shopped for my dress I invited her and she didn't want to go. When I went in to pick it up she finally came, but now I just keep things to myself.

His mom - TOO MUCH! So much that she books and pays for things without consulting me and FH. And then complains that my family isn't contributing as much as they are....

Don't get me wrong, I'm extremely grateful that they are helping out when I never asked, but it's hard to accept since she keeps complaining. Like I just want to tell her "Quit buying/paying for things if you are going to complain about it." She also doesn't complain to me, she complains to FH, so it's not like I can randomly say it sometime. I've told FH to tell her she has to consult me and him BOTH before purchasing or booking anything. I've also told FH if she complains again, to tell her to quit doing the thing she is complaining about.

FH also told his parents about our idea to make invitations with my grandma's cricut and how he wanted to buy one since it'll be slow with just one (he also wants to start a wedding invitation business). His mom went out and bought the most expensive cricut....again grateful, but I feel like she will complain as well as take over..

My family on the other hand, "let us know when you need help and we will!" I like this approach much better. Haha.

My future MIL is very excited and wants to help a bunch, but my future FIL and my FH stepmom (SMIL?) are very mute. They have agreed to help with paying for the alcohol, but that's about it. I don't expect my future FIL to be all excited about the wedding, but my FH's stepmom and I are fairly close, so I'm surprised she doesn't want to be more involved... maybe they just assume that since I'm planning it, that I'm only working out the details with my family? It's a bit frustrating...

I'm sorry what you're going through, it's challenging!!