FH's brother not a groomsmen?

Escorting their mother would be a good way to have him involved. Both of FH's siblings are in the BP but my brother is not, and we're having him escort my mother. I think having him usher, and escort their mother and do a reading might be a bit much, so I would either have him usher and then walk the mother or do the reading. That's just me though.

It is up to you and your FH who you want in your BP.

I think having him escort FMIL to her seat would be a nice compromise.

(Sorry I don't have any better input.)

My FH has 2 brothers and a sister, only one brother is in the wedding party. No one said anything to us about being upset about it. My FH is only close to 1 brother so that made sense to us. I think a reading or having him be an usher is a good alternative if that's what you guys want to do. ETA: escorting the mom is a good idea too, I didn't notice that suggestion before

Ultimately, it is your FH's decision. If he does not have a great relationship with his brother, then I don't think it is an obligation. That being said, You do have a lot of time between now and your wedding. Could your FH work on rebuilding the relationship with his brother if you think that it will cause more problems with the family?

We aren't having any of the brothers and sisters in our wedding party. FH talked to his brothers and sister about it and they honestly didn't seem bothered by it.

Having your FBIL escort would be a nice way to involve him if you're worried about that.

Thanks everyone! My mind is eased We'll have him in the wedding somehow, but knowing it's not obligatory to have FBIL in the BP is a big weight off my shoulders.

It's definitely up to the personal relationship, and how your FH thinks his brother will feel!

My brother was not in our wedding party at all, but both of our sisters were. I'm not close to my brother, but there's also no drama or hard feelings! He could barely stand wearing a suit and making small talk at the wedding, so I knew he would not care or want to be in the wedding party. He did escort my mom in during the processional though!

We are in a similar (but not really) situation. My FH and his brother do not get along. Long story short, his brother is 5 years older, picked on him when he was a kid and the mother did not care when my FH just ignored his brother. All these years later they do not talk STILL!

To us, it is a no brainier. If you are not that close and don't share similar values that lift each other up to be a better human, than why are you going to stand next to me on the biggest day of my life. Obviously, he will not be in our wedding as a groomsmen. He is going to be a guest and possibly walk my FMIL down the aisle. TBD.

My FH asked his best friend rather than his brother to be his best man (brother was asked to be a groomsman) and we got some backlash from family about it. We have no problem ignoring family members but if you are someone who will be upset if your FHs family is upset you may want to rethink it

Are you asking if siblings not asked to be in the wedding is causing issues? In my case, no. FH sister was not asked, and my brothers and sister were not asked. We asked our closest friends (MOH and a best man) to stand beside us. No one has given us crap about it.

My now husband did not have his brother in our wedding. We did have his daughter but not him. It did cause some problems and right now he won't really return any texts (he doesn't really answer the phone). I think it's fine but it could cause problems yes.