fh won't compromise

So my FH is a very shy person. He hates speaking in front of a lot of people and overall just hates attention on him. We are doing a first look, and he suggested that we read our vows then, and then during the ceremony we do the generic repeat after me stuff. I told him that I would like to say our vows in front of everyone because I think verbalizing your love to each other on your wedding day in front of your guests can be very special. I suggested maybe writing "secondary" vows that are still meaningful but short for the ceremony and he said no. He also said that he ABSOLUTELY does not want to do the garter toss because he doesn't want to have to go up my dress in front of people. I offered an alternative of just sliding the garter further down to like my knee so he can just quickly get it without being all weird about it and he said no. I feel like if he doesn't do the garter toss I can't do the bouquet toss, because the men would just feel left out. I'm sure we can eventually talk it out and come to a compromise but I'm just annoyed