FH wearing a kilt :)

I am sorry that his family is being insensitive to the idea. I would have thought they would think appreciate him trying to honor his heritage. As far as your brother is concerned, I would just sweet talk him into it (puppy dog eyes work best for me). I mean I can imagine that he is uncomfortable with the idea though he should just suck it up and do it for you since this is your wedding especially if everyone else is okay with the idea. I don't mean to sound harsh though if we have to wear a dress then guys should wear a kilt at least once to see what we go through... LOL

As you can imagine, with a name like mine, I have a little insight into this issue! Know that in Scotland, wearing a kilt at a wedding would be as normal and accepted as wearing a tux is here.

When I married, we had 14 guys in kilts, and the photo with us all in it is one of the most discussed in our house. I'm sure your photographer will want one like that since it looks great! Having your brother the only one not in a kilt, or worse yet, not in the picture at all, seems like it wouldn't be a great option.

If all else fails, tell your brother this one true fact of wearing a kilt in the US. Ladies seem to think a chap in a kilt is considerably hotter than a guy in pants, and that wearing one in Scotland is more a sign of being masculine than it is a sign of being feminine. It's not a skirt, it's a kilt - a garment, by the way, that women DO NOT WEAR. If he's single, he won't be going home alone, know what I'm sayin'? ;-)

I think your brother should "suck it up". This is your wedding, and your FH day. It is tradition for him to wear a kilt at his wedding. If you were to get married in Scotland he would be wearing one and not think twice about it. GO FOR IT. I think it is VERY SEXY! I asked my Hubby ( FH at the time) to wear one to a Renaissance Faire and he looked VERY HANDSOME, and he actually liked it!

Good on your husband for honoring his heritage. I agree with previous posters. Talk to your brother and get him to understand how important it is to your fh and what its meaning is. I think men in kilts look wonderful and wedding photos of them look amazing. Definately not something for any man to be embarrassed to wear.

I agree brother should suck it up. Sometimes us girls have to wear things we are not a fan. It will look awesome. My mother's side of the family is Scotish. I love kilts. Do it!

I agree. It is your and your FH day. Your brother and family should honor your wishes.

Thanks! I will definitely stand by my fh and try and make my brother get over it My brother is married so the whole play on women digging it won't work and I'm sure his wife making comments about him having to wear a "skirt" doesn't help matters either. Hopefully he'll get used to the idea from now until then

Could you have the other guys in kilts and your brother in pants?

It's not like your brother is going to be the only one in a kilt so I don't see why he'd have a problem with it. It's not like he's being singled out and the only one wearing it. But I don't necessarily think it's so bad that he change into pants after the ceremony AND pictures are taken. I mean, how many weddings have I been to where the bride changes out of her wedding dress into something else for the reception. And most guys take the jacket and sometimes tie off for the reception too. I think that as long as he's in the kilt for the ceremony and the pics it's fine if he changes after that.

I dont think it was over the top for you to think he should be able to change after the ceremony. maybe even halfway through the reception he can change. personally, i dont want anyone i love to be uncomfortable at my wedding, so im not even making my bm's wear the same dress.

It is both of your wedding day and it should be your way. Sad but true a member of the bridal party can cause frustration and stress. I hate to say it but I have seen it time and time again. I always tell couples when choosing their bridal party it is not choosing people because you have to or because they are family. You need to choose people who will support you and assist you that is their role. This may sound harsh however; it is the truth. Unfortunately, he is your brother but it is not his wedding it is your wedding and he should respect yours and your FH wishes or not partake as a member of the bridal party.

I agree with you FH for wanting to wear a kilt to honor his heritage. Besides, kilts are great. I would talk to your family about teasing your FH. No wonder he is sensitive about it. I would let your brother know that you want for him to participate in the wedding but it's in a kilt or not be in the wp. His choice. He could do a reading or something. It's one day in his life.

I agree it seems like your family needs an attitude check! (This could be the Scottish pride coming out in me) To make fun of someones culture is just rude and defiantly not the way to welcome someone into the family! Like lovely said it's funny in the beginning MAYBE but after that it's not cool. I wanted my husband to wear a kilt but he wasn't comfortable with it and it was his wedding too so I had to respect that. But as it is not your brother's wedding he needs to respect your FH's and your wishes.

The way I incorporated my Scottish heritage that you may want to consider for your ceremony as well is I had a bag piper play the wedding march and walk before me down the aisle. He only played the wedding march none of the other ceremony songs and was a surprise to everyone but my mom (as it was her idea), my dad (as he was walking me down the aisle), my aunt (she was our coordinator) and my husband (well duh it's his wedding). We kept him hidden so no one knew he was there until...

Contd... we both stepped out from different entrances to the aisle as he struck the cord. It was a magical moment and everyone loved it! My husband said our officiant (our best friend) and the best man were like "oh wow, that's so cool" when it happened.

After the ceremony he also played during the cocktail hour. He played the Marine Corp Hymn which was a great hit with all of my husband's Marines

Sorry got off subject and a little personal but its hard not to get excited remembering it and I thought it may be a nice surprise for your husband

Kilts are awesome! Check out this wedding here that did a ton of celtic themed stuff: http://rosyweddings.blogspot.com/

Those groomsmen gifts are sick!

Sachele, that sounds like a great idea with the bagpiper. My FH wants to have bagpipers playing outside as the guests arrive to the ceremony so unfortunately the surprise factor wouldn't work for us. We are also thinking of having highland dancer perform at the reception. Your wedding sounded beautiful and don't be sorry for reminiscing on your beautiful day

Meaghan, thanks for the link!

Thanks Sachele! That sounds like a great idea with the bagpiper. My fiance wants to have a bagpiper there, playing outside as our guests arrive so the surprise factor wouldn't work for me. We are also looking into having highland dancers dance at the reception. Your wedding sounded lovely I'm glad you had such a good time and its always nice to reflect on it

Sorry! don't know how that posted twice :/

Oh the highland dancers would be great! My mom made my garter out our tartan. If you know someone that can sew it is easy to do. we bought a tie because tartan is super expensive. Just another thought for you