FH not on Save the Date

I would wait until you receive the invitation to worry about whether FH is invited or not. Save the dates are fairly informal and if the couple doesn't really know your FH they may just not have know to add him on or something.

I only addressed my save the dates to both people in a couple if they were living together. On the invitations I addressed both people on the mailing envelope if they lived together or just the main person if they didn't. My inner envelopes had both people addressed by name though regardless of if they lived together or not. I'm sure I fucked up a lot of that etiquette bc I didn't research enough ( especially with the save the dates ) but what's done is done.

I am sending my STDs this week (ahh). For people that have a plus one that are not living together, I did not include both their names. Things might change between now and when my wedding is. Since you're engaged, it's a bit different. It's possible it was an over sight but wait to see what the actual invitation says because that's what matters.

@Lauren yes I wasn't sure of etiquette because you really aren't sure what could happen to certain relationships from the STD to the wedding.

I'm not too concerned about FH not being invited or being invited -- just wanted to make sure I did the right thing when it came to my STDs! I'll probably take @Richards advice in putting guest when I'm not too sure who their SO is or who they're planning on bringing.

I appreciate the help!

A save the date is not an invite, but rather notice that an invite will be coming. It may be that the bride/groom do not want to add SOs until the invites go out.

I tried to get everyone on single STD's, but the envelopes were just so small...don't worry about it until you get the invite. It would be a little ridiculous if they didn't allow you to bring your FH.

I am not sure the proper protocol but my FH was not on my cousins STD but he was invited in the end. My mom wasnt even on the STD, only my dad. They are obviously both invited. Then again she did eSTDs so this may be unusual.

My std's were extremely informal, just sent them via the internet. I'd wait, unless you are really worried, I suppose you could request a plus one? Just like a just checking, should my SO also being saving the date? Not sure if anyone else would agree wi th me on that..

I did not include plus ones, or bf/gf names on my save the dates. Although, I did include fiancée names. I would wait until formal Invitations arrive for a definite answer. Many people have different views on what is proper etiquette.

I addressed save the dates to each person who was invited only because I was going off my list. I'd wait for the invite.

I think the bride and the groom should address their STD to both guest couples if they want both to attend their wedding. Both need to save the date for the occasion anyway.

I am married, and my husband's friend, who we invited to our wedding, only invited my husband to her wedding. I feel offended because she knows me. But my feeling is not necessary because it is her wedding.

I do not want to add drama or unnecessary stress to her, for I know a wedding can be very stressful. They are both lawyers, so I do not think budget is a concern, but I let Karma do the work for whatever reason. I also do not want to come to a wedding where my presence is not wanted.

I think the bride and the groom should address their STD to both guest couples if they want both to attend their wedding. Both need to save the date for the occasion anyway.

I am married, and my husband's friend, who we invited to our wedding, only invited my husband to her wedding. I feel offended because she knows me. But my feeling is not necessary because it is her wedding.

I do not want to add drama or unnecessary stress to her, for I know a wedding can be very stressful. They are both lawyers, so I do not think budget is a concern, but I let Karma do the work for whatever reason. I also do not want to come to a wedding where my presence is not wanted.