fh joining our little family

I personally think that's very sweet. It's great how your FH is getting gifts for all the kids!

This is so nice.

Ooh that’s a hard one. I agree that the whole plan is very sweet, but I don’t have enough information to say if it’s a good idea. Do your children get along with your FH? Do they have a close relationship? Is their biological father in the picture? Will your kids see this as the loving gesture you mean it as, or will they be offended?

I have a son who will be 12 at my wedding, and he absolutely adores my fiancé. Most days that’s his favorite person, and they have a fantastic relationship. However, if I were to insinuate that my fiancé is now his father, he would be very upset. While he doesn’t see his biological father too much, he still thinks the world of his father no matter how many times he’s been let down by him. I could see him not viewing the song as something sweet, but that we’re replacing his dad. That’s would never be my intent, but I know that’s how he would perceive it.

My point is, only you know how your kids are going to feel about this. I think it’s awesome that your FH cares about your kids and that the two of you are on the same page for creating a stable, loving family for them. But they at some point had another father in their lives, and I’m sure have had all kinds of feelings between the point where you were not a family any longer and now. If you choose to do this, make sure it’s in their best interest, not just to have a touching moment during your ceremony. Depending on your kids, they might prefer to receive these gifts in private. You know your kids best, and I’m sure you’ll make the right decision. Congrats!

View Quoted Comment My son has never met his dad he left when I told him I was preg. My son talk to his older brother (different mom same dad) and ask questions about him and then talk to me! He said it is best that he left when he did! My girls dad left when they was little so they never see him! They know about their dads but will tell you my FH is their dad! They call my FH daddy and love him to death! They are open about everything will ask questions and speak their mind! They ask him about calling him dad before talking to me! They told me if we ever split up they going with him one week and me one week! They little one is 11 and she ask him will he adopt them later he told them all if that's what they want he will! My FH and son buttheads some and they fuss but my son always says mama I love him sometimes we just don't agree!😂😂That's the teenage boy coming out he's fixing to be 15!

That's sweet