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Future Mrs. Ivancich
Dedicated March 2018

FH is fighting me on Guest List

Future Mrs. Ivancich, on February 24, 2017 at 10:08 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

So first off let me say that we are not actually fighting but he is very adamant about keeping he guest list small. I agree wholeheartedly and fight now our List is at I think 35. His extended family is not being invited because he does not know any of them really and they are crazy. His words not mine. I wanted to invite my aunt and uncle (dads side) because we went to my cousins wedding a few years back. He is ok with that but when I tried to include my cousin and her husband (we went to their wedding) he was like " no I don't know them and don't want to invite people just because you feel guilty that we need to". So I understand not wanting someone there because you don't know them but we went to their wedding! Also my younger cousin (brother of cousin from wedding) lives with my uncle and aunt. So when I said we have to invite him, he was like " I know him even less! Just because he lives there doesn't mean he should be invited!"

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Latest activity by Food&Sarcasm&Crafts, on February 24, 2017 at 10:57 AM
  • Future Mrs. Ivancich
    Dedicated March 2018
    Future Mrs. Ivancich ·
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    Am I wrong in thinking that it's almost impossible to invite only certain people from a household? TIA!

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    You don't need to invite people because they invited you. If you want to keep it small, there will be some tough cuts, but you make the cut and move on.

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  • M
    VIP March 2017
    Miss S. ·
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    Celia is on the money - wedding invites are not tit-for-tat. If that was the only reason for wanting the cousins there, then cut cut cut!

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  • BoozyBaker
    Master January 2017
    BoozyBaker ·
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    Siding with the husband here. You don't have to invite people just cause they invited you and you don't have to invite people you haven't seen in ages or care about just because they're "family".

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  • Kelly M.
    Super October 2016
    Kelly M. ·
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    I'm with your fiance on this one. You don't have to invite people just because they invited you to their wedding. Their wedding was different; yours is yours. People will totally understand, especially if you keep it truly small. More intimate is much nicer. And you don't have to invite the cousin just because he lives with his parents. Especially if your fiance has never met him.

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  • Future Mrs. Ivancich
    Dedicated March 2018
    Future Mrs. Ivancich ·
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    Thanks everyone! This was very helpful, I have a hard time with the saying no out of guilt or seeming rude. I'm working on it though! Thanks again!

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  • LAJUANA
    Savvy October 2018
    LAJUANA ·
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    We both have huge families but chapel is seats 100. We invite close close family & friends. Everyone else invited to reception /dance.. I'm having very best friends at door with RSVP only first. Cousin & them...see ya!

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  • WHO? Mrs. Jones
    VIP December 2016
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    I totally get what you're feeling! People will understand.

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  • Food&Sarcasm&Crafts
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    Food&Sarcasm&Crafts ·
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    What Celia said. Just invite who you guys want to be there, and who you can budget to properly host. Smiley smile No one will be mad at you for not inviting them even though you went to theirs.

    @Lajuana... say what?

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