FH friends won't give me their address!!

We've had a few of FH's family members that after reaching out 2x...we still don't have their address. They are OOS & we don't think they would attend anyway n we stopped asking/didn't send invite at all.

Try looking them up on whitepages.com that's where I found a few family members addresses.

I would call first. If they blow you off over the phone then forget 'em.

My invitations went out last week and I was still missing an address from fh aunt. I asked his mom and dad for it several times (I have no number for her and she has no fb) this weekend his dad had the nerve to ask why she didn't get one I just shrugged and said no address no invite. There are way more important things to stress about I'd quit reaching out and if they make a comment just tell them you tried to get their address but they never gave it too you

I'd try calling before you just write it off, but I agree with others. No address, no invite. How the hell else are you supposed to send one? If you're still unable to get it, maybe just let them know when the wedding is via text, email or phone call? But then at that point I'd say good luck ever hunting down an RSVP.

It shouldn't be this hard to invite someone to a party.

Skip them. That is totally rude on their part.

If it's this hard to get their address imagine how hard it'll be to collect their RSVP.

I would give it another month, then ask one more time. If still no response, skip them. They're being rude.

I would move on and stop asking. You made several attempts with no response. They know what you've asked for, no need to keep on asking. If they really wanted to go they would've given you the info right away.

I'd take that as a sign that they aren't interested in going

I'm planning a wedding and I would provide my address to an address collector... so they get a pass with that one. I would skip the save the dates for them, have FH reach out for addresses individually (again) once the time to send invites roles around, and if they still don't respond then no invite.

Personally I have one like this too. He claims he doesn't know what town he lives in. So we sent his a pic of the std via text and told him to tape it to his fridge... he is out of state and may not be able to afford to come. So I'm assuming he might be embarrassed?

If they wanted to come to your wedding, they wouldn't be such douchebags about something so simple.

I had the same exact problem with one of his friends. I finally said "then Kevin isn't getting an invitation." When FH saw a big group of buddies and Kevin finally gave him his address, FH told him invites had already gone out. We had been trying to get addresses since JANUARY. It wasn't a priority to this guy, so it wasn't a priority to us anymore.

Too bad, so sad.

Sounds weird. Do they have SO you can reach out to? Just got a Facebook message from of of FH's friend's fiancée asking for our address because her FH and my FH weren't connecting I guess.

They're being rude. I would skip them. There were a few people I had to ask twice, but they were super busy and apologized and gave me their address.

I agree with @Celia, it shouldn't be this hard to invite someone to party with free food and booze. Maybe try one more time to get the address, then move on.

FH had a couple of friends who were being a pain in the ass about sending addresses and responding to RSVPs. After a while even FH said, "let's just count him as a 'no'".

No address no invite, doesn't sound like they're interested

Thanks you guys! I think that's what I'm planning to do, forget save the dates for them and then maybe have FH try to call/reach out again closer to invite time and if they still don't then screw them lol. One of my fears a lot of you expressed, if they can't even text their address then how are they going to handle filling out an rsvp and then putting it in the mail? I have people who've told me they probably won't make it in red on my excel, they're now all in red lol

If people refused to give me their addresses I marked them as declined....if they won't give you 2 lines of text they aren't worth wasting an invite on.

I would have FH try and get ahold of them.

If they continue to avoid you, they don't make the cut then. Their loss.

@Andie sadly these ones don't, I did that with FH's close friends because I know that both of their SOs are reliable lol but yeah these ones are single guys -_-

I'm sorry, that's a bummer. One of my DH's friends did this, even after DH messaged him "Look, if I don't get your address I physically can't invite you" he still didn't tell us his address. He kept giving my DH the run around like "I moved back home" and "I live with my dad" and "I'm back in Townname". Like, we live in a different country, we don't know where your dad lives!! This was one of my DH's closest friends from childhood so we tried really hard. In the end my poor DH messaged him a picture of his invitation and gave up, and of course the friend didn't show up. My DH was really hurt. If they make it that hard to get their address they unfortunately probably don't want to come.