fh Doesn't Understand Planning Process

I kind of agree with him. We didn't really have meetings with our bridal parties. They were looped I to what they had to wear, but that's about it.

We didn't have "meetings" with our bridal party either. I let each of my girls know what to wear and my FH let each of his guys know.

What can I say except that most guys are clueless to these things. lol

However, I will say that my FH doesn't realize it either and we are less than 3 months out, lol! He just lets me handle most of it, and I ask his opinion. He just handles everything with his groomsmen.

Men are a little clueless.

How large of a bridal party are you having? I would agree that a large bridal party can be stressful. It can feel like herding cattle. Are there specific things you want them all to meet for? Discuss budget/styles on attire? I've been in a few weddings before and met most of the other side of the bridal party the night before the wedding.

We didn't meet with our bridesmaids or groomsmen. We sent group texts to everyone and they all got their suits & dresses.

You could show him the checklist on here and the budgeting tool. That might give him a clue and help him focus on what needs to be done. I find giving FH one task at a time helps with the planning. First was to gather all the people he wanted to invite. Then get their addresses. Then pick out his groomsmen, and a tux they want to wear. He can handle his guys. No need for you all to meet. Group texts are great!

He’s right. Being in a bridal party is an honor, not a salaried position with scheduling meetings. Once you’ve asked your bridal party and they say yes, you tell your respective sides about their attire and the day and time of the wedding and, well....that’s it. Your wedding is also 9 months away so I’m not sure what there is to discuss with the BP.

Print out wedding wires budget and master checklist. My fiance nearly fainted when he saw it. Mine isn't a planner but wants a wedding 🤦 it's a long road.

He's not wrong, though. Your wedding party isn't responsible for helping you plan your wedding. I've been married twice now and never had meetings with my wedding party.

Yes, if you give him a copy of the checklist/countdown, he'll be able to see what it takes to put together a wedding. Then maybe he won't be so negative about your ideas.

I haven't found it necessary to have everyone meet up though. I talk to my girls when there is something they need to know, and he does the same with his guys. Like he just called them last week to get their email addresses. We are sending them a link to the suits we want them to get. Same thing for my girls. I created a favorites list on Azazie, and emailed them the link so they could choose their dresses.

But whatever works for you is what you should do. Let FH see it all, so he understands all you have to do.

I think most men honestly don't stress over details like we do when it comes to weddings, at least mine doesn't. I gave him certain projects and people to deal and it's worked out so far. He's in charge of the DJ, the reverend and photographer, his ring and his suit. Now I do sit in on the meetings and offer suggestions but it takes less stress off me and he always talks to me before making any final decisions.

I agree with PPs in regards to giving him a checklist of what needs to be done and when. There does have a lot of elements that goes into wedding planning and most grooms are clueless aha

We didn't meet up at all. I have a group chat with my girls and a group chat with him and his guys. If there is anything they need to be aware of, sales on their outfits, schedule changes etc, I'll fill them in, but that's about it.