fh doesn't care about being involved in planning

For me, it's not that my FH is just plain uninterested in the planning, it's more so that he's not going to be sitting on the computer, pinning things on Pinterest, researching colors and centerpieces. I ask for his input on certain things, and he'll normally give it. But he's certainly not the type to be like "OMG babe, I got such a good idea", you know? It's just not his thing. He gives his input here and there, he's really interested in talking about the honeymoon though, which is something I've noticed. One thing FH doesn't like talking about is the guest list. There are a few people on the list he really doesn't want there, so anytime I bring up the list, he cringes for a moment, LOL! But generally speaking, I'm doing most of the planning. He and I put forth money financially for whatever we need to get. And it works great! I just run things by him, and move on to the next thing! Don't be bummed out, Miranda!! Some of our partners just aren't as invested in the actually planing/researching process because they may find it tedious.

Many guys will act like this during wedding plans. Some guys honestly don't have an opinion because they don't know the difference between chiffon and satin. Some guys feel overwhelmed by all of the details and shut down.

I found that worked with my FH was to do the research and narrow down it down to the last 2-3 options. Before buying supplies for centerpieces, I made up a mock up of what I wanted and asked for his opinion.

I also asked what he was looking forward to with the wedding. He let me know that he wanted to be involved with the food, cake, and music.

Mine I felt didn't seem enthusiastic but he was definitely willing to help.

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Today when talking about it my FH told me ' I will let you know if I do not like something you want to do' that was his only input other then saying as long as there is alcohol he is fine. He is really just looking at the idea of partying for a week with everyone since we are having a DW. He is also more conerned that my sister does most of getting everything together once we get there so I can relax. But he forgets I am a total control freak. I want everything to go excatly one way. And my sister wont be able to get it done exactly how i would want it

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HAHA omg that sounds just like my fiance!! It's super cool you guys are having a destination wedding, if you don't me asking, where are you going to be going?? The alcohol made me laugh because my fiance said something similar very early in our planning. Sometimes men just don't care for the nitty gritty details!! Sigh.. but as long as you at least fill them in and get their general input on things, all will be well, believe me!!

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We are doing ours in Myrtle Beach. We are paying for our family to go on a week trip and getting married in the middle of the week.

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That sounds really beautiful! I love that. It sounds like it's going to be lots of fun. I hope you have fun with your wedding planning, all the best!!

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Thank you. I sure hope it will be as long as I get through the headache of planning it

My FH has hardly any clue of how to plan a wedding! I have to be super specific and give him clear cut tasks and instructions to help me. This usually works well and allows him to contribute!

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I will have to try that some. I am getting tired of it seeming like I am talking to a brick wall

Mine only cares when it's something he really wants or really doesn't. He pretty much stays out of it though, which is a blessing and a curse. I like getting my way LOL..but I hate that i'm doing literally everything

View Quoted Comment That is excatly how I feel it overwhelms me all the stuff I gotta do but at the same time I like that I can do whatever I want

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I figure he'd get more say if he did more! He just says "i'm paying for it" which he is paying for the bigger ticket stuff, i'm helping....he's not thrilled about the color being purple...to bad lol

View Quoted Comment Mine was upset with the choice of color until I added enough of it so he could wear the red tie he wanted

I’m feeling these posts so much RN!!!! We delegated to FH the job of deciding registries. Surprise surprise he decided to do the whole Amazon thing even after I explained how hard it was going to be to come up with stuff to add that we valued or found useful, etc. but I went with it because it’s his decision. So tonight as I sat and created our wedding website, reviewed our engagement photos, made our Save the Dates and reviewed a bunch of stuff he added a grand total of 3 items to our registry and then decided he couldn’t think of anything else!!!

Mine!!! I ask him if he likes things, and he’ll respond with “babe, do YOU like it?” And he just wants me to be happy which is so sweet, but tell me dang it! Lol

Mine helps out a lot but if I change my mind on something we both agreed on (like our colors), he will then say "That's on you now since it's your big day." LOL

I honestly wish that was how he was. He literally lets me talk but it just goes out the other ear. Only time he got excited was when I decided to get married on a beach and any time I bring up how big his budget is for alcohol. And then he just wants to talk about all the liquor he can buy with it.

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I know how you feel. Like i am glad i can do whatever I want to do for it. But I swear it would be easier with some help every once and a while

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At least YOU got all that done tonight. Good for you! And I didn't give my FH any thing that he would be completely in charge of because just like where you are I know nothing would ever get done for it