My fiancé and I got engaged a few weeks ago and I’ve always, always, always envisioned a small, intimate spring wedding. I’m from the very rural south and grew up going to weddings at 2pm with finger foods, cake squares and punched served at the reception and all guests home well before 6pm. While I want a bit more than that, I do not want a full blown “wedding these days” wedding. In an ideal world, I want an early morning ceremony followed by a nice brunch and to spend the day with my husband, family and friends. I never got the impression that my fiancé wanted anything specific until the engagement - now he wants a big, extravagant, expensive reception. I know that he wants that, but I also know that his friends’ expectations of our wedding, that we are paying for, have absolutely influenced his expectations. But that’s a conversation for a whole different thread.
How did you and your partner find a happy medium?