FH and I can't agree on wedding location

Not to freak you out or anything, but if your wedding date really is October of 2016, you guys probably need to make a decision as soon as possible. We don't live in a big city at all and our venue booked Saturdays over a year out.

Where do you guys live? Will you be traveling to your wedding destination regardless? Is there one side of the family that is more willing or able to travel?

Where do you live? Personally, I think planning a wedding where you are is infinitely easier than trying to plan a wedding from a distance. Also, one thing that really swayed us away from a destination wedding was that we wanted to be at home and relaxed. I knew I would be stressed trying to get ready on the day of in a hotel. I wanted to have everything I needed to get ready and not have to worry about packing it all.

If half the people are going to have to travel you might actually avoid hurt feelings if *everyone* has to travel and you just do it wherever you live (even if you live in one of those places and therefore some people don't have to travel at least you have a valid reason and it doesn't come off and choosing sides).

Other than that I would say to just think about the type of wedding you want. A wedding in TX is likely to look a lot different than a wedding in FL or NY. Which fits your vision best?

We live in houston, pretty large city! It's either here or Ny. I'm not sure whose more willing to travel I have people who aren't able to go anywhere because they are older like my great aunt and grandma. They both live in Texas and would come if it were to be here. My mom lives in FL and she doesn't want it to be in ny due to the price...hotel, car, food blah blah.

I have somewhat of an attachment to Ny because that's where our relationship started. It would be full circle in a sense. But, ughh idk lol.

Can you get some pricing of options both places and do a side by side comparison? If one option is significantly more expensive that might help you decide.

Where do you live? I would strongly suggest there. Otherwise I would suggest the location where you would have the most help. I briefly considered a wedding in San Francisco but when I realized how much hands on stuff I wanted and needed to do, I switch to where FH and I live and where my parents are. Besides being more cost effective, it's been much easier to plan, because I can pop over to a vendor or the site in my car, not a plane.

I plan on making my center pieces. Unfortunately, my mother,who is my crafty guru lives in FL as well as my bms. So I'm pretty much making everything on my own either way. FH sister is checking out venues for me in Ny while I look here. The price is fairly the same IN both Ny and Tx.

I think doing it where you live is easier. FH and I are having our wedding in FL (where we live) while the majority of my family lives in OH and his lives in Canada. Since it sounds like your DIYing I'd think it'd be a pain transporting all that.

I'd say Texas. NY prices for everything will be higher from flowers to coordinators to food. You will probably get a little more bang for your buck in Texas. Also your guests will have to pay more to be in NY.

I planned a wedding from a distance (it was in California, I'm in Hawaii). We took over 2 years to plan because we would take a trip there twice a year and then we could meet vendors in person, do tastings, etc. But even with two years, we'd end up booking three florist appointments in one day and the next day three DJ appointments, the next day a coordinator meeting and a tasting, etc. It was a lot of work. I would suggest since you have less time, you should plan where you are. That is where you have a life now, so it makes sense.

I would suggest planning the wedding where you live in Texas. We had the same issue, my whole family lives in California but my dh's family live in Connecticut where we live. We chose to do the wedding here, to make planning easier. Especially if you are doing a lot of DIY projects. It will be hard to travel with those or ship them.

I'm going to repeat what others have said and say have your wedding in Texas. H asked me where we should hold our wedding, but I don't think he ever expected me to say anything other than the state we live. Planning is stressful enough.

We struggled with this, too, but ultimately decided to get married where we currently live for logistical reasons.

I would pick by pricing and location.

And honestly- your odds of finding something in NYC at this point are getting slim- I just found out I lost the room I wanted for my dinner to a bride having her rehearsal dinner the same night at my restaurant.

#annoying

Pick the price point and then pick the one that's closest to you- I couldn't imagine trying to plan this from half way across the country (We did discuss that actually - but nope nope nope)

But yeah- if you're in October- you should be booking people left and right- both my officiant and photographer were booking well into 2017.

I would look where you live! I visited my venue about 5-6 times in between booking and wedding so I could remember layout, decide on centerpieces, figure out what I needed (arch for ceremony, decor for cake tables etc). I was 1.5 hours away from my venue (my home town) and even that was hard. I had to take a couple Fridays off to do final walk through, food tastings etc.

Check this out... not sure how accurate but I found it when I googled: http://www.wedding-spot.com/wedding-venues/Texas/Houston/

We had a similar issue, but there wasn't as much distance between people. My family is from Boston and wanted the wedding there. We live in Brooklyn as does FHs family. We ended up choosing NJ after looking at tons of venues in NYC and Boston. It's an hour away from NYC and 5 hours from Boston. It's close enough that we can still visit vendors. I agree with having it in TX especially if you have family member that can only attend if it's in TX. Also I can tell you with certainty that overall costs will be significantly higher in NYC than TX. You can always do a little outside Houston to save $$

If you're flipping the coin go for the wedding at home

We were in a similar situation, everyone was spread out, so we picked a relatively neutral location in Florida. It's between the two cities our parents live in and also happens to be where we met. We currently live in Maryland so it's been a bit more complicated planning. Florida also happens to be much less expensive than the DC area is. If you don't have a very good reason for doing it in NY (not sure that you ever said NYC, and based on your "price is fairly similar in NY and TX" comment, I'm thinking upstate NY), I would do it near where you live. It'll be easier for you despite your comment about your mother and bridesmaids living in FL. No one cares about your wedding as much as you do, so make it the most convenient for you and your FH.

Let us know what you decide

I will agree with those that say planning the wedding where you live is best. I am planning my wedding 2.5 hours away from where we live and even that can be hard. I cant imagine planning from another state. Being able to visit your venue, do trials with your MUA, taste test your caterer, etc will all be very difficult to fit into a weekend visit.

Plan the wedding where you live your lives now! I have a feeling that the weather in Texas in October will be way better than the weather in NY... which is constantly unpredictable!

So after a talk last night with FH, we are still at stand still. So I've decided to plan to fly to ny(long island) to meet up with his sister to visit these places I've looked at online to hopefully help with my decision. But I did run it past my mom and my bms. My moh said it would to expensive for the hotel and that my FH should pay for the hotels...lol. My mom said no as well but didn't give a reason. My other bm is up for whatever.