ffil Wedding Ring

Are you sure your FH would like to wear the wedding ring from his DIVORCED dad? I don't believe in bad luck or anything but since this ring symbolized the forever commitment of his parents and the marriage didn't last, it just feels a bit weird to me. But you know your fiance and how he feels about his parents divorce and how his relationship with his dad is.


No ideas as to how to incorporate it if you have a different wedding band for him. Sorry, I've probably not been much help. Just wanted to give you my 2 cent.

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This. It's not a "luck" thing per se, but it feels weird to have him wear a piece of jewelry that was symbolic of a forever that didn't happen.

Your FFIL was very sweet to offer it, but I think I wouldn't accept it/give it to FH.

Nope its definitely bad luck and a bad omen. My fmil offered my FH his deceased dads wedding ring but they divorced before he died - FH didn't want a ring from a marriage that ended in divorce.

Tell your future father in law to sell the ring.

View Quoted Comment Let me elaborate a bit more. I'm not so worried about the bad luck part. But his parents divorced when he was young and they have both been remarried twice. They still get together for family events and everyone is friendly. I was thinking it would be a nice memento more so than thinking about the symbolic foreverness. I'm not sure if that makes it better? But I totally get where you are all coming from.

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Then maybe FFIL should just give the ring to FH? If you give it to FH on your wedding day, it *may* connote to him the lost foreverness, rather than just the keepsake part of it.

I agree with PP, if FFIL wants to give it to him he should himself. Weird especially since they’re werent married long.

I would not use that ring as a wedding gift or expect your FH to use it as a wedding band, esp since it's not his style. I'd casually ask your FH if he even wants the ring on a day unrelated to the wedding.

Maybe you can melt it down and have it made into a pendant or place it on a chain so he can have it as a symbol of the joining of his parents. Even if it did end in divorce your FH was created because of their union and that’s a beautiful thing.

So my mom offered me her ring and my dad's (my mom has been a widower for 13 years, and she no longer wears her ring because it doesn't fit her anymore). She said we could melt them down for our rings if we wanted, but neither my husband or I like the look of yellow gold. Even though my parents set does have significant meaning to me, I wouldn't want to wear something I didn't like the look of just because it was gifted to me.

I don't think you should be the one to gift the ring; FFIL should do it and it should not be on the wedding day or associated with your wedding at all.