I've always had the desire to keep the legal name that I was born with since childhood. My FH and I have been together for 5 years and he has known this. He just now told me yesterday that he thinks I'm being too uber feminist with wanting to keep my name and he fears my decision to do so is not genuine since he suspects I'm preparing for a "what if?" divorce. Backstory: my dad abandoned his wife and kids (i.e. my mom, me and sibling) about 10 years ago. Other examples he gave was how I wanted to keep our finances separate and how any children we may have will have both of our last nanes hyphenated.
Do you all see this as an issue? Is it wrong to keep finances separate and keep your maiden name? Is it uber feminist? Is it preparing for divorce?