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Female hostess (ushers)

Ashley, on December 4, 2018 at 12:28 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 6

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So I have 1 MOH and 5 bridesmaids, I am also having 3 of my friends 1 to pass out programs, 1 to do a reading, and 1 to over see the guest book, then they will assist walking the grandmothers down the aisle ( sadly all the grandfathers have passed away). Is it ok to ask the three girls who are not bridesmaids per say but are still playing an important role in the wedding get matching dresses? I was planning on having them take a few formal pictures with the entire wedding party as well but will not have them sitting at the head table due to space and they are all bringing spouses. I just don’t want them to get their feelings hurt or ask too much.

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Latest activity by Stephanie, on December 4, 2018 at 7:11 PM

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Caytlyn · on December 4, 2018 at 12:32 AM
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I would ask them to wear one of your wedding colors or a black dress, something they likely already own. I wouldn't expect them to purchase an expensive gown like your bridesmaids.
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Ashley · on December 4, 2018 at 12:37 AM
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Thank you! I was just unsure, sometimes I’ve seen that ushers wear a tux as well so I didn’t know if they should be totally matching the bridal party or have them just wear a certain color.
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Maggie · on December 4, 2018 at 8:27 AM
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Hey Ashley! I know what you're talking about with the ushers in tuxes, but I think it really depends on the style of the wedding. Like Caytlyn said, if they're not technically part of the wedding party - a bridesmaid or a groomsmen - then I think it's a little unfair to ask them to dress a specific certain way. Wedding colors or a back dress is a good idea.
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LB · on December 4, 2018 at 9:55 AM
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I'm not a fan of giving loved ones jobs at weddings in the first place (why does someone have to watch the guest book and since when can't people find a seat on their own!?) and have never seen a reader match the wedding party. Personally I'd be annoyed if you asked me to buy a certain dress but didn't feel I was important enough to actually be in the wedding. Let them wear what they want.
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Ti'Anna · on December 4, 2018 at 7:00 PM
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I would just keep it simple with a black dress or maybe a dress with that matches one your guys wedding colors. I wouldn’t feel right asking someone with such a simple job spend the amount of money it would be to be in the wedding party
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Stephanie · on December 4, 2018 at 7:11 PM
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I was an usher for a friend’s wedding. Three of us who were her closest friends in high school were ushers and her college friends were bridesmaids. We were told to get the same dresses. Honestly none of us were happy about it though. We had to spend a lot of money (dress, shoes, hair and makeup) and weren’t actually part of the wedding.
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