Female Groomsmen

Sides don't have to be even?

I understand if he wants his sister

To stand on his side with him but you shouldn't add people to his side for the ceremony for the sake of pictures.

Its not for the pictures, its so I dont freak out. I like even numbers and even sides. Its my way to not have a melt down. Like a safety net

Your wedding isn't even until 2020 you have a ton of time before you even need to ask anyone to be in your bridal party let alone worry about sides.

I wouldn't worry about this until 8-10 months out when you ask your bridal party. Things could change between now and then. Your FH Might decide he wants a cousin in the BP or might make new friends.

I wouldn't stress out about this at all yet honestly. And when the time comes you should decide together who to ask if numbers are so important. I would maybe stick to just a MOH and BM to save yourself stress

I agree with @Munchkin. My sister asked her BMs back in 2014 when she first got engaged. Her wedding is in 2020 and she doesn't talk to four of the girls she asked...so she feels so awkward about having them in the wedding. Seriously. Just wait.

You should not be asking now. His side should be his nearest and dearest, regardless of gender. And it does come across as overflow from your side and like they're props.

My FH has more good friends that are girls so we will have them in the groom's party, there's nothing wrong with that.

But like what everyone else is saying, I would wait. We didn't ask our people until April if they would be in the wedding party. Since it's so far out, you'll never know who may end up drifting out of your life. I would wait for sure.

If he wants his sister, he should ask her. She would be a groomswoman not a female groomsman.

1) sides don't have to be even but if it's for your own sanity, I understand. 2) it's wayyy too early to be asking people to be a part of your BP. From experience, I'm no longer friends with someone I thought I couldn't have my wedding without and both FH and I have gained friends that have been added to the list for BP. 3) there's nothing from with female GMs. Two of FHs GMs are women. And will be wearing what the guys are wearing. Do what feels right to you guys but still. It's way too early

Yeah I wouldn't even be thinking about this right now. Relationships change so he might have 0 friends by then or 8

I'm a female groomsman, and I will have two men on my side. Gender schemnder

Would you seriously "freak out" and "have a melt down" over uneven sides for a wedding in three years? If so, these three years are going to be really emotionally fraught for you. You might want to work on stress management.

What are you two friends who have been turned into groomswomen supposed to do? Are they going to be involved with his bachelor party and get ready with him and the BM the morning of?

I am the same way about the party being even.

I have 6 bridesmaids, fiance has 4 groomsmen. Who cares about numbers? loved ones dont come in even packages. ''Have a meltdown''? that sounds so dramatic...

And no, I would raise an eyebrow if I saw the situation that you are describing. If you really would ''freak out'' about uneven sides, then have 1 bridesmaid and 1 groomsman.

but worry about this in 3 years, its way too soon. Also, your fiance should try to socialize more. Its not healthy to have 1 person in your life. (no cousins, neighbors, friends).