Felons not allowed on base!!!

Oh wow. Sounds like they will do police check on everyone. I've heard of delivery drivers running into problems too when accessing military bases if they have issues (bench warrant for missed traffic court, etc. non-felony stuff) I work with military bases and this pops up from time to time.

I'd do an insert with the invitation, then follow up phone calls to anyone who sends back a "yes" rsvp. Wouldn't want someone to rsvp then forget to fill out and send in the paperwork!

How long does it take for paperwork to be processed? That can also determine when to send the paperwork out. People may also procrastinate with the paperwork (as they do with rsvp)

In your situation, I would definitely do a website and have link to base rules. Good luck.

This is a tricky situation, you may have friends and family that have not told others about a felony conviction. You need to put out the situation early and often, and do not, under any circumstance ask anyone why they are not coming (which is rude in any event).

How many guests? Are any of them felons? They'll do a criminal check of everyone ahead of time, so I would follow up with all the yes responses w/ the paperwork

Thanks everyone!! It takes about 10 days for the paperwork to be processed. So if the criminal background comes back true for some folks, then I'll refer to my "B" list invitation. I just didn't want to wait until the last minute.

Refer to your "B list invitation?" What does that mean?

That would be a no-go, for me, and I've only had a few parking tickets. I had to get clearance for my job (healthcare), but I wouldn't go through that again, unless you were a very close family member or friend.

I'll let others respond, to you planning a "B" list.

P.S. You have a year to find another venue.

Oh by the way do they habe to provide SSN and drivers license numbers? Hmmm I would be very annoyed to supply my SSN. Yikes.

"B list invitation"??

I'm not gonna lie here and sorry if this sounds harsh but I'm not doing all of that to go to a wedding. Filling out paperwork with personal info on it and having to undergo a background check is an inconvenience to your guests.

Don't B List. It's incredibly rude. And trust me, people will always find out they were B-listed.

This could be so embarrassing for some of your guests. "Why isn't cousin Billy here?" "Oh... ummm... there was a problem with his paperwork..." cue the gossip mill. Not everyone will think someone simply declined the invite.

B-lists are rude as hell and like you just want to make sure you get a bunch more gifts.

B list invitations

http://www.brides.com/story/navigating-b-list-wedding-guest-invites

You should get a new venue. You will likely have a lot of people decline just for knowing they have to go through this process. If you do decide to go through with it, follow Karen's advice and let guests know now so that those who don't want to fill out the paperwork are aware they won't be attending.

Also, B-lists are rude AF. Don't do it. Just don't.

No offense taken...if that's what the venue (that's affordable according to my budget) requires then so be it. If it too much for folks to adhere too...then again, I'll refer to my B list.

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So when do you plan to send out invitations? What if a B-listed guest doesn't get their papers submitted in time or there's some kind of snag with the background check (I actually had a holdup with mine when I got my current job 2 years ago)?

B-listing is bad enough on its own, but it's a logistical nightmare in this situation.

If I found out I was "B" listed, I'd politely decline.

Oh wait I have been "B" listed before.. and it effing sucked... and I felt awkward and uncomfortable knowing I was a back up...

Most of our friends/family are federal government workers and military so once again, if a guest receives an invite and can't attend, it's ok.

@LillyBean17 and @Dreamer I'm not tripping off any gifts...I'm not even doing a registry.

#carryon